Married Men: Have you ever fantasized about your wife making out with another woman? If so, do you imagine them going "all the way" or just kissing/heavy petting?
Married Woman: if your husband had such fantasies, would you ever indulge him in it? I'm not talking about a threesome, more like you and another woman kissing, undressing, fondling, and (maybe) toying while he watches (and maybe snaps some photos).
Married Woman: would you feel insulted if your man mentioned the above? (just shared it with you, didn't ask for it). If he did actually ask for it, how would you feel?
My wife has been pressuring me to tell her some of the "naughty" things I think about when lovemaking...I just wonder if it's normal for men to imagine thier wife and another, unknown woman making out.
How normal is this?
-J
2006-10-02 04:48:24 · 17 answers · asked by Joshua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Judging from what I'm reading- it seems this thought/fantasy is more common that I originally believed.
Married Women: If you were totally comfortable to live out your husband's fantasy, how would you want to have it go down? What would make you most comfortable/aroused? Someone you both know, someone only you know? Does she (the other woman) know what's happening? Or do you pretend to seduce her while your husband secretly watches?
My birthday is coming up and my wife has been hinting about wanting to give me a "sexual" gift. If I get the balls to ask her to live out a fantasy, how should I structure the event to best suit her needs.?
2006-10-02 05:04:21 · update #1
It's completely normal -- I would even bet that a majority of men would like to see two women making out. My wife knows I like this thought, and it doesn't bother her. Your wife is asking you to tell her your fantasy, so tell her. Keep in mind, though, that it's fun just to share fantasies -- remember that your wife will feel no particular obligation to help you fulfill this fantasy.
2006-10-02 04:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your confusion comes from the fact that there are two different concepts which unfortunately are both called "having a fantasy"
1. Something you really want to try but haven't had the chance to yet.
2. Something that really excites you but isn't something you ever want to do.
It sounds like your fantasy of watching her with another woman is the type 1 fantasy.
For example, some people have rape fantasies, so they roleplay being raped with their partner. Of course, they don't actually want to be raped.
So, you need to understand if she's asking you for ideas of new things that you'd actually like to try, or if she wants to know what deviant things are going in your imagination that the two of you could roleplay.
If you do discover that she's looking for ideas of new things you could try, don't bring up the lesbian thing unless she's given you some reason to think she'd be into it.
2006-10-02 11:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Steven S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is very normal, and I suggest you bring it to her. She asked, you tell her, you will be surprise at her reaction. Maybe this is her very own fantasy and she will love to please you.
We as a couple talk about it all the time, we watch movies together and play pretending. It's fun and can spice up the relationship. We will also do it for real if we get the chance.
Go for it!
2006-10-02 12:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by cuteboymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's normal. In my experience, it's all about TRUST you all have to have a really tight bond of trust before taking your relationship to the next level. So much could come out of it...whether it's watching or 3-some. Becareful and remember if you go all the way, it could be ending of a wonderful marriage.
2006-10-02 12:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal..... some guys think about Pamela Anderson or Roseanne Barr during sex.
The question here is how is she going to respond to the answers you give her. Is she going to think its too weird or freaky, and then feel differently about you because of it?? Some women will ask this stuff, because they think they want to know the answer, and figure they know the answer will be simple and harmless. When you tell them exactly what your thinking, and it's something freakier than they figured.....their whole attitude toward you will change. The way to dodge this one.... is to ask her what SHE THINKS you are thinking,
2006-10-02 12:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really normal... I want to have a threesome.... I want to make out with a girl in front of my man, because i know that he will be happy... I know that he will probably love me just a little more...I am learning that if you just take the time and think things through about what it is that your partner wants you can make life just a little better.... Tell her your dreamsa and thoughts... you never know she may feel the same way... I am learning that every woman wants to be with one woman, at least once in their life
2006-10-02 11:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My husband and i talk VERY naughty and we have discussed this very thing. Of course i said HELL no i won't do it. HE understands but we still TALK about it when we are engaged in sex. We talk about alot of dirty things. When he asked me to do things with a girl I was NOT offended because i have fantasies too and I'm glad he is open and honest. I just replied .....if i fulfill your fantasy can you fulfill mine. I told him mine he said "HELL NO" ...we both laughed and decided that there is no need. It would just cause chaos in our marriage. We still discuss what if when we are engaged.
2006-10-02 11:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by CMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've imagined it and lived it. It was awesome.
I say if she is asking for it, warn her that you don't think she'll like it, and that by asking, she has given up the rights to complain. My wife has asked me about some things and then complained when I told her, but after I started setting those rules things went a little smoother.
2006-10-02 11:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like every guy I know. You may not be able to get her to physically kiss another woman. (It might be weird....how does a married couple get a third person involved? I don't know how that happens) But she may indulge you by talking dirty about it. Which might be quite enjoyable. I would talk to her about it, just start off subtle. Lol.
2006-10-02 11:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by ~Lacey~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure most men have had that thought cross their mind at one time. Personally I have, but as far as actually wanting that to take place, no. I have no desire to see my wife with anyone else, man or woman.
2006-10-02 11:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by NiceGuy27 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋