Ive been married for 8 years and have 4 kids. The wife and I like sex but havent bothered in so long mostly because of me. IM SO BORED of her. I know that sounds bad, but its true. Its a primitive program inside most male brains to seek sexual change. I have no interest in cheating, but I want to get that uncontrollable feeling back. And ive heard all the classics... we already have watched porn, dressing up, public sex, bla bla bla...the only thing that seems to excite me that way is the idea of a threesome, or to have someone watch, etc.... but shes not into that.
Anyone have anything that worked for them that hasnt been said before to get back that internal sexual insanity that a man craves!?
2006-10-02 04:46:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The seven year itch.....there's something better out there for you, NOT! I've been there, and is still into internet porn, and my wife doesn't like it. She wants more attention and loving from ME. She said so over the weekend. I'n learning to focus more on her, and she has came through wonderfully for me, so I'm hoping we will improve our marriage and sex life over the next few months? Years? By the way, we're married for 9 1/2 years. Listen to your partner, and act upon what he/she wants even if you don't like it, and your partner should do the same for you. If the partner don't, it may be time to find a counselor, as there is a communication breakdown somewhere in the marriage.
2006-10-02 04:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what your missing is not sexual insanity- its the new feeling, that feeling that made your heart race when she looked into your eyes or when you touched her for the first time. i imagine having 4 kids takes a lot out of you both. having a three-some or someone to watch isnt the idea, have respect for the woman you vowed to cherrish, damn, man- anyway, you both need something new, some spark to reignite the dying flame within. take a couples sex class, do it in the backseat down by the lake where all the teenagers go, videotape yourselves separately and have the other watch it, buy a sex book with good ideas, but most important-you dont need sex to have love and maybe you should go a week w/o masturbating or having sex and surprise her with a romantic evening. (like all the kids at the granny's) women respond better when you ignite their inner emotions
2006-10-02 11:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by luvnherb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sexual insanity is something you crave I think you are already there. Threesome okay. maybe! Having somebody watch, INSANE!!!
Look at the whole picture. Are ther other issues? I hate to be the only one to say it but, who got fat, who does not pay attention to the other unless they want sex, who has to do all of the cooking cleaning, and keeping up with the four kids?
Think about all that before you go throwing a bunch of weird sh** out there buddy.
2006-10-02 12:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try a little romance? I have been married for 25 years, have 6 children and still enjoy my wife. I take her to romantic places treat her like the special person she is and I never let her forget how much I love her. When a woman knows that she is loved, she can be a tiger in bed. My wife is better now that she ever was in bed. You sir, are missing the boat!
2006-10-02 11:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
a change of location is the first, then change the time of day...just change things up, porn never did anything for me.
2006-10-02 11:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess she can dress up really sexy, and for you to pick her up at a bar or something,and just pretend you are having sex with a stranger.
2006-10-02 13:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try some of the newest sex toys there are some that will tickle your fancy i am sure
2006-10-02 11:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe in it but i hear from some couples is that cheating saves a marriage. i've never been married so I can't say...
2006-10-02 11:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by reconflux 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough one if you've already tried porn and all.
2006-10-02 11:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE A ROMANTIC MINI VACATION, JUST THE TWO OF YOU.
2006-10-02 12:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋