Quite a while ago, my b/f and I got into an argument while drinking. We ended physically fighting with each another and I ended up calling the cops on him. The cops came and picked him up. A few days later, I went in to do a statement and put about 4 charges against my b/f and a restraing order. He is going to court as I write right now, and I have a change of heart of what is going to happen. We are together now, but that restraining order has us locked up not able to do anything outside together. I don't want the restraining order no longer, how do I go about that? And how can I prevent him from going to jail? If I did the charges and restraing order how can I put a stop it all? Please help me quick!!
2006-10-02 04:45:56 · 11 answers · asked by Janine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well honestly, you might not have the choice to keep the restraining order. You need to contact the district attorney's office or any advocate prosecuting the case to express your feelings. I work in the domestic violence field and this happens often. However, even if you don't want this restraining order, a judge may keep it in effect for your protection. If it is his first arrest, it is likely he will not go to jail. If you are not sure of who is prosecuting the case, you may want to contact his defense attorney to see what the best avenue for you. He will also be able to give you details as to what is happening with your case.
2006-10-02 04:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by danicad134 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is in court today, you are too late. Maybe you really didn't want to stop all this or you would have dropped the charges before his court appearance. And, if you really wanted to stand up for him, you would be in court with him instead of writing in to ask people you don't know to answer a question for you and tell you what to do. Reality, if you two were drunk and fighting then you really shouldn't have taken out a restraining order on him because being drunk and fighting was something you were both doing. But, if you feel you really had good reason to charge him with four charges, then you really know the answer to this question and one more. Should you get out now? Yes.
2006-10-02 04:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer some thing. A restraining order is issued through a choose who sees a sparkling concern and needs to curtail it earlier it turns right into a larger concern. they are unlikely to modify their options, if only for the legal duty in touch. and they don't challenge retraining orders if there is not any longer adequate evidence of a risk, so i'd reassess any involvement with that guy. Judges do not challenge those gently, some thing threatening got here about, meaning it may truly ensue again. Leopards do not replace their spots.
2016-12-04 03:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by mehaffey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like to me, that you should just let him go to jail. If things got heated enough that you felt that you had to put a restraining order against him, that right there tells me that things are serious. Domestic abuse, is serious, I know first hand...You truly need to think about htings before you let him convince you that "he was drunk", "things are going to be better" and "he's sorry" and "it will never happen again". Because 9 times out of 10, it doesn't get better, it only gets worse. I once took out a restraining order on someone, only to be convinced that things would be better, we got back together and things were all great for about three weeks, before he put me in the hospital and almost caused me to lose our baby. Needless to say, that was 13 years ago...and I've moved on (without him) Don't think it can't happen to you! What ever your decision, good luck!! I'm sorry if I didn't give you the answer you were looking for. Good luck anyways!
2006-10-02 04:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by lil_rowdy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't want to sound rude to you but what the hell are you doing ?? This isn't some sort of game. If he hit you and you had him arrested and have a restraining order against him, why the hell would you change your mind ?
Why would he ever have anything to do with you after that ?
You two have no respect for each other .
Maybe the next time he will beat some sense into you.
2006-10-02 05:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound very immature. It is illegal for you to be back together. Which is why it was wrong for you to make the report in the first place in a fit of anger- you were not thinking... You both participated in the fight - I'm sure it was you that started the hitting to begin with. I think the police will persue this to the maximum because this is how they make their money off of criminals and court hearings. I don't know if there is anything you can do without getting yourself in trouble.
2006-10-02 04:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think now, cuz most states will not allow u to get another one once u dropped the first one. You can go to court and let them know you are going to drop the charges, but really think about this.... I made that mistake from an abusive boyfriend..and they wouldnt let me get another on.
2006-10-02 04:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by sexyghostgirl69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has already violated the restraining order and so have you. You should both be in jail. But you cah drop the order,but don't expect anyone to take your seriously NEXT TIME he beats your goofy ***
2006-10-02 04:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by peckerwud2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just call the dept you placed the order with and cancel it. You may have to go down to the station, but its very simple.
2006-10-02 04:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO to the police station and advise you want to drop the charges....
2006-10-02 04:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋