2006-10-02 04:42:46 · 21 answers · asked by brad 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You sound as if you are in tremendous pain. I'm glad you took the risk of asking for assistance. It must have been frightening. I hope I can help.
There are many people, some of them members of the clergy, who believe it is possible to be a good Christian and have desires for members of the same gender. You may find it helpful to make contact with some of those people and/or churches. The Welcoming Churches movement is composed of Baptist, Presbyterian, Disciples of Christ, United Church of Christ, Lutheran and United Methodist congregations, and can be reached through the Open Hands Magazine at 3801 N. Keeler Avenue, Chicago IL 60641, (312) 736-5526.
Another source of affirmative Christian thought on gay and lesbian issues is the Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches. You can find their web page at http://www.trends.ca/~ufmcc/.
You may also find it helpful to work on changing how you think about your desires for other men. For instance, instead of trying to make those feelings go away and castigating yourself for having them, perhaps you could view them as a part of yourself that you have decided not to act on. This approach distinguishes between feelings, which just are, and actions, which can be controlled.
I hope you will find the peace you seek.
2006-10-02 04:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Markin Gomez 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have a conviction that it's wrong, then it's wrong. Don't allow someone else to tell you that your opinion of what right and wrong is, is incorrect. You have to do what feels right to your soul.
I personally do not feel your desire for men is sinful. Even if you act out on your desires, they aren't sinful. I understand if your feelings contradict your upbringing but in the end, you have to do what's right for you. But if you truly are uncomfortable about your feelings, pray about it. Things you really don't want to do, you don't do unless you're forced. This is not a case of you being forced to do anything.
2006-10-02 05:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The greedy way I was looking at yesterday's roast sure was.
I don't think it necessarily is. Sin is usually more an issue of doing, not just thinking. In Matthew 12, Jesus said,
"for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things. But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned." (12:34-37)
This is just one of several pertinent passages, but the indication is in the doing. Although our doing comes from our thinking, you may not want to jump too far ahead in your reasoning if it is not necessary. James 4:17 applies, "Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin," as does the discussion in Romans 14 that concludes with "whatsoever is not of faith is sin." (23). While it can be a little more complicated, you may be putting a bigger load on your conscious than you should, assuming a Christian context and most folks who don't, don't talk about sin.
2006-10-02 05:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So based on your last two questions you are an unattractive sinner!
Brad, that is NOT a healthy outlook on life. You need to find some friends and begin throwing off these negative feelings.
ENJOY LIFE! You only get one shot at being you - be the BEST YOU you can be!
2006-10-02 05:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just fun. You can desire men
2006-10-02 04:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by konala 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You feel it's sinful because of outside influences, of that I am sure.
Mommie2bee you should be ashamed of yourself with children of your own. I would just hope and pray that you wouldn't be so close minded if it was one of your own...
Just my opinion
2006-10-02 04:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by preciseonegirl28 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
lighten up on yourself..your feelings are very normal for a great percentages of us. do not let the religios bigots control our life.
2006-10-02 05:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to find a nice gay friendly church to help you get the f*ck over it.
2006-10-03 04:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is sinful . your cant help the way you feel but you can controll your actions . I dont cheat on my wife because i see a pretty woman.
2006-10-02 05:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is not sinful!
2006-10-02 05:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by dmspartan2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋