he says that he does not like the legal way of being married and wants to have a ceremony with just us and god. so he wants to divorce and still be together after we have a personal ceremony with just us
2006-10-02 04:38:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What does his girlfriend have to say about it.??
Somethings not right here.....he's got something else going on that puts him in a bind if he's married. If you agree to this, you will lose all your rights if they aren't covered in the divorce decree. What about community property, child support, and alimony if he decides to split, or toss you out after the divorce. You'll lose on all counts. I'd divorce him, take him for everything I could get, and then let him do whatever he wants........but not with you!!! You're being taken advantage of, and played for a fool.
2006-10-02 04:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why does he want the divorce? ?Just because he doesn't like being married? Then why did he get married in the first place.
Second, marriage protects both you and him, when it comes to property and finances. If you get divorced, and stay together, if he should win the lottery or some other financial windfal come his way, technically, i don;t think he would have to share it with you, depending on your state and whether or not they recognise "common law" marriages. A common law marriage is when your not legally married, you still live together, raise a family, and act married. I think that the majority of states DO NOT recognise this is a legal marriage.
Third, what do you want from this relationship?
2006-10-02 11:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by klgemini29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all that's crazy. He wants all the rights and privileges of marriage but he does not want the responsibility. When you got married it was in front of God. God was there. That whole legal junk is just that a bunch of junk. If you divorce him, stay away from him. You need to do some investigating on your own because hubby is up to something. Good luck.
2006-10-02 11:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ludicrous. I've known of one other person who did that and the only reasoning behind it was strictly so he could have sex with other people without the ramifications. He went off and did his thing, while still remaining in the marital household and I just found out that they are getting remarried in March of 07.
What's the point in remaining together after divorce? You still love him? Well guess what honey, he's not loving you by asking this. It's men like your husband that give others the bad rap. Divorce him and go on with your life. He's a loser.
2006-10-02 11:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may need to get a divorce but definately not stay with this guy. What is his deal? He could've brought this up before you ever got married in the first place. It sounds to me like he's got a few screws loose. He probaby has other plans and expects you to be stupid enought to believe this wild story of his. Then you will get divorced, he will take all your stuff and laugh all the way to his new girlfriends house. Don't trust him. Good Luck.
2006-10-02 12:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no words on how crazy that is. Why did he get married in the first place and now doesn't like the legality? What's he hiding? Does he want to sleep with other women? Take all the money and run? Something is very weird here.
2006-10-02 11:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband wants to have his cake and eat it too. I think he wants to be able to cheat without legal ramifications. He probably thinks if he does it this way he will end up with more in the divorce. You can't really do this. You need the legal protections of marriage.
2006-10-02 11:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by jennypoo803 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so....that obviously doesn't sound right to you either or else you wouldn't have posted this on yahoo answers for input. I would say "no....if you want a divorce then we will NOT be together....that's what a divorce is intended to be". Sound like he has other plans hunny. Let him know who's boss...
2006-10-02 11:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by CMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the religious idea, but I don't see how that makes sense. If you're together long enough, the court will recognize you as having a common law marriage, where you'll have the same rights. So whats the point?
2006-10-02 11:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by ~Lacey~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO-that means he will leave and not have to pay alimony and still get sex. Tell him absolutely not. Sounds very fishy to me. He "does not like the legal way of being married?" WHAT?? So, basically, he wants sex without any responsibility to you. You're crazy if you do this.
2006-10-02 12:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋