I'm 15 and pregnet, I like to have sex, but I didnt want to get pregnet, and I also dont want to make the dad disappointed by giving the baby up. Even though he doesnt know yet, so maybe I should give her up. I'm 3 months pregnet already? Sooo what should I do?
2006-10-02 04:36:00 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You have to talk to your family and to the family of the father of your baby and decide together which is best for you. You're too young even for deciding on what to do about the baby. But in the future be more responsible. This isn't a game.
2006-10-02 04:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Earthling 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are too young, but I think you're too young to be having sex as well...but nothing can be done about this.
I have two issues to discuss.....one.......disappointed or not...the father should know he is going to have a child....and his parents should know as well....they might want to raise the child if you decide to give the baby up......what better place than the paternal grandparents.
Secondly, when you are making your decision as giving the baby up for adoption...consider these things......finances.....how will you support the baby....welfare? School....how hard is it going to be to continue school and studying...after school activities etc. Day Care.......if you keep the child who will take care of it during the day....and while you are trying to do homework? When you're friends call and want you to go to the mall.....are you going to take the baby? Will your friends want a baby tagging along?
How will you get up and go to school if you've been awake all night with a crying baby?
These are just a few of things you should consider while deciding to keep or give the baby up.
Babies are wonderful special beings....they need love, time, energy and all the attention you can spare and then some. If you don't think you can devote 28 hours a day (not a typeo, it seems like 28 hours) to raising a tiny human being that you want to take his or her place in society as a loving caring person....then the answer is clear.
Ask anyone who has children.......they change your life........nothing is the same.
It would also ...NOT be fair to make your parents raise your child..they are aleady raising one...you!
My last bit of advise is to please use protection if you're having sex! You need to use condoms as well as another form of birth control.....I'm not going to get into the whole STD thing but you can pass these diseases to the baby....and to other sex partners.
Please be tested for clamyidia...it can go undected in 75% of women and 50% of men who contract it. It can keep you from having children if left untreated.
While sex is Fun...it feels Good! There are responsibilites that go with it.......I don't think that most 15 year old girls or boys are ready for those responsibilites. So wait...find other creative ways to release your creative impulses, that won't get you pregnant. Sex is like riding a bicycle...if you stop doing it now.....you won't forget how to later when you're ready for it.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-02 12:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by obzpal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case you should really think about yourself not your boyfriend. Your the one who is going to carry the baby for 9 months, your the one whos going to be tied down until the baby turns 18. You are too late in the pregnancy to have an abortion. You have to keep in mind that you didn't want to have a baby. This decision is only yours to make. Even though he might want the baby he is not the one whos going to stay up all night making sure the baby is breathing normally or rushing to the hospital at 3 in the morning. Hes not the one whos going to stay with the baby in the hospital for three days. You are. Let me tell you from experience that the only person that this baby is tied to, is you. No matter what the father says, he can walk out anytime but you can't. All I'm saying is that you are young and that you have options.
2006-10-02 11:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by s_borichick2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard decision that only you can make. You will get a lot of grieve from people no matter what because of your age but you have to look into yourself and decide. I know a girl very well that is 15 and has 2 kids and is the absolute best mother in the world! Yea its hard and its gonna be hard at any age. Its going to be a lot of work and a lot of staying at home and supporting the baby, You will not have your childhood any longer but if you put your child first you will do fine. Try to at least finish school or get your GED.Also you need to talk to your bf and both of your families. You may get more support than you thinkl. If not be ready for a long hard road but remember a lot of other woman do it and so can you!!
2006-10-02 11:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very young age to have a baby. Nobody can tell you what to do with a child that you are carrying though, this is something that you have to decide on your own. You may want some support. Maybe include your parents in on the decision, since they will most likely be the ones supporting you and your child. You have such a long life ahead of you, and it's ashame that kids these days are having sex at such an early age. When you make your decision, keep in mind, you are not just making a decision that effects your life, it effects yours, your parents, your boyfriend, his family, and most important a baby. Are you ready to take on the responsibility of this child? This is very difficult, so think it through carefully.
2006-10-02 11:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is right for you and the baby and not worry what the father will think of you. If he cares about you at all, he will support whatever decision you make. Would you rather have him disappointed, or have a baby you can't take care of and end up resenting him/her? They are A LOT of work and it's for the next 18+ years. It concerns me reading this and knowing you are just a kid yourself. I can only hope my daughter will be raised to know that sex is something special, not cheap and meaningless just cause it feels good.
2006-10-02 11:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by SatinDoll1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your main concern should be you and not the father. men say they will be there and then back out later. if you are only 15 i am sure he is around the same age and if not working then you guys are putting yourself in a bad situation. i am 22 and having my first, i am very independent and have been since i was 17. both my fiancee and i attend the same college and i am going off to grad school and still it is hard to have a kid. you are very irresponsible and need to deal with the consequences of your actions. you have your whole life ahead of you, why do you want to grow up so fast? unprotective sex at a young are is not worth it. as a result you are now pregnant but what if you had gotten AIDS? would you still like having sex then?
2006-10-02 11:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by HunnyMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What!!!! At the age of 15 you should not be having sex at all... I believe through the mistake you did you need to raise your child. Tell you dad! It is your fault why you got pregnant in the first place. You thought you were adult enough to have sex, well, now you are adult enough to raise a child too. You teenagers just do not get it yet. Sex is like playing with fire eventually you will get burned if you are playing with it all the time. KEEP THE BABY!
2006-10-02 11:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by DO IT! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like sex then you should talk with your mother before this. I'm sure she would of gotten you protection. Anyways please don't abort the baby there are plenty of people that would love to raise it. If you decide to have it your going to miss out on a lot of school functions. Life isn't the same when you bring a child into this world. It's all about the child. And I would say YES 15 is to young. Good luck!
2006-10-02 11:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I'd tell the father of the baby, then decide what you want to do, also tell your parents so that they can support you, just remember that a baby is a HUGE responsibility....after you are done being pregnant, make sure that you get on some kind of birth control and your partner needs to wear a condom so you are double protected...>Good Luck!!
2006-10-02 11:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by kimbeesue63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋