This guy is not happy about our new creation. I am 8 weeks, and starting to show. Yesterday, my stomach looked so pregnant (this is my forth pregnancy) and when he seen it, he looked immediately stressed.
Financially we are okay. for the most part. I am really concerned. Please dont say counsling, I know he will not even concider this.
How do I make things alright for the moment.
I know he'll come around here once he has the chance to make that emotiional connection, but for now, his distance, and lack of concern is killing me.
What can I do?
2006-10-02 04:31:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Financially you may be okay, but the added stress of a fourth child could be what is bothering him. He will loose even more of you, as you will be attending to yet another child. As a mother of 4 I know what you are going thru. Counseling might help, but I have been there too, and know what you mean by him not wanting to do that. You are right, he may come around once he gets that chance to bond. Maybe even before, try involving him more in the pregnancy. Let him go to your appointments, listen to the baby and see the sonos. Let him feel the baby when it starts to move. Ask him to do walks with you and stuff like that. Make it just as much part of his life as it is yours at the moment, this might help.
2006-10-02 04:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by countrygirl66032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was unhappy about our third child. He hated to be reminded that the baby was on the way. But he did come around and was very glad. I'm sure your husband feels a lot of pressure. Try to assure him that this baby will make your lives complete. (mine wasn't complete until Matthew came along)
He'll come around and be happy, just give him more time. It's only been 8 weeks, probably only 4 since you actually found out, so he needs to get used to the idea.
2006-10-02 11:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time men get stress when they hear the word pregnant because they probably did not planned it. but eventually when the baby is here , or atleast when you are 8 months going9, they get more involve because they watch you go through it, your pain your uncomfort.
Are you sure you are showing?your baby is only a size of a pea.or a grape. Baby's normally shows at 3.5 to 4 months. Stay healthy and be happy, eat healthy, and love your baby. you should use babyzone every week they send you a reminder of your baby, and i picture of what the baby looks like and the baby's weight and size. try it out. good luck (Mummy)
2006-10-02 12:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by brazilian women 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give it a little more time. Some people I've read take until birth for it all to sink in and to enjoy it. Maybe it really hasn't hit him yet or maybe he's scared because he doesn't know much about it. How about getting him one of those books for expecting fathers? I think that might be good for him. Good luck.
2006-10-02 11:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u talked to him about how unfair he is being? did he want the baby and was it planned? Im sure he will come round but he does sound a little immature and selfish. He needs to stop sulking and start supporting u!
2006-10-02 11:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. He obviously isn't sure whether he wants the baby or not. It's something he'll have to get over on his own. The more you try to interfere the more difficult you make it for him.
2006-10-02 11:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by camus0281 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give him time, it is still early and he needs to come to terms with this in his own time. Dont try to force him to get excited.
2006-10-02 11:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Proud_Army_Wife26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should give him time.my husband didn't say much when i told him i was pregnant but he says its early days and anything could happen.but as i got bigger the baby was moving he could get a bit excited we have no regrets as it was our eighth and we couldn;t be happier
2006-10-02 11:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by diane o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this wasn't planned was it!? my guess is that he is stressed one more mouth to feed one more back to cloth and more sleepless nights, i think the further along you get the better he will get. try to get him to go to the Dr's with you:)
2006-10-02 11:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry when that baby comes out he will change
2006-10-02 11:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mariah&Lydias_Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋