when did we start all this feeling badly stuff? it could just as easily be some other way! One more dead thing makes space for another living thing! or a million other points of views!
Have you any point of view about death that is NOT some postive New age death is natural rebirth cliche" or some grim sappy heart felt death is sad and painful cliche"!
Itching for something new of the death front today!
(our cat died this morning and i am caught in a highly unoriginal garden variety cliche' : sad)
2006-10-02 04:30:58 · 15 answers · asked by zigzagidiot 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
why not happy , joyous, indifferent - what has mourning woefully ever REALLY done for anyone?
2006-10-02 04:47:47 · update #1
i love this question! as a nurse i have been faced with death a lot. and i have my own view of it i think. i have no idea what happens when you pass on, and i have no clue what happens after you are dead, but i think it is all beautiful. the person (or animal) that is dying is not having the same experience as the people who are staying on in this life. even through the dying process, that person is in a completely different place, and no one can ever know what that is like. on our side it can be very ugly (full codes, gory accidents, suicide, cancer), but that is not that person's experience, that is what we, the ones staying on, are seeing. and all of that is physical things that induce emotion. i think dying is a spiritual thing, no matter what religion you claim or don't claim, and it's different for every person. death and the dying process should be viewed as a miracle, just as birth is. it's something we don't understand, and should have the mystery and awe of a beautiful unknown. i think the negative parts that come into play are all selfish, but out of love. and out of what we Know to be true. it's hard to put faith into the idea that death is okay and beautiful with no proof. but many do it for religion, so i think we all just need to work on it. however a positive view on death forces us to check our human emotions at the door, and having faith in a religion allows us to pass the buck in many ways.
2006-10-02 16:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by prettyhate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When someone we love dies, whether they have four legs or two, we are sad for ourselves (because we miss them) not for them (hey, they're not worried! they're just sleeping). I think it would be a little disturbing if we were "happy" when someone dies but I suppose we could feel a sense of peace instead of sorrow. Whether you believe in an afterlife or not. Either way they've gone to sleep. Whether they wake up in another universe or not, you still have your memories of them, so you can be happy about that. Sorry if this is at all cliche or sappy or new age! Sorry to hear about your cat though. It's hard to lose a pet. They're part of the family & you do get attached to them. I adore my cats.
2006-10-02 11:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone dies, it reminds us that we are not immortal and that bothers ego laden earth bound people with no concept of spirit or reality.
That and selfishness is the entire root cause of the public greiving process. and if you didn't know the person then, you are one of those; throw yourself on the coffin, professional mourners, it just means that you are a freeking drama queen looking for sympathy even above death itself.
All of the above are pathetic!
I hope people dance at my funeral... I am working on it. My life will result in joy either way! By Insulting one idiot at a time and enjoying myself as I do. As long as it served a purpose, in the end it will have all been worth it both the insults and the idiots joy at my demise! I think I loved Sir John Wilmots death best... Now, that was one hell of a life and an even better death!
2006-10-02 11:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when there is a loss, people dont feel bad and cry because the person or animal died, they feel bad and cry because they will not get to see them again. we should rejoice and be happy that these people or animals had a chance to experience life. i know people are tired of hearing about steve irwin, but i see no reason to be sad that he passed on. yes, we, the planet earth as a whole lost a very good person, but we should all be happy that he lived an incredible life and lived it the way he wanted to live it. we should all be that lucky. he had a job he loved, a wife and kids he loved, a life he loved. if thats not a reason to celebrate that someone lived i dont know what is! if the cat lived a long happy life or even a short happy life thats something to celebrate and be happy about, not be sad. you are only sad for yourself because you wont get to see the cat again. i hope this helps. its the way ive always looked at death. when i die i want people to celebrate the fact that i lived.
2006-10-02 11:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by kristeena911 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time I think about death as a natural cycle which it is. Some die, some are born, and this cycle is what makes the nature go on. But we feel sad when someone we know dies because we know that we aren't going to see them again, we know that they haven't fulfilled all their dreams and hopes, etc.
I think this all started as humans evolved to **** sapiens. But remember even some animals react to the deaths of their offspring or mate.
2006-10-02 11:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Earthling 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only feel sad for myself...I will miss the person (or cat)...I don't feel bad for them. They are either "in a better place" (Christians) or reborn (Pagans) or whatever it is that they believe will happen. (I think it all depends on the individual what happens to you after death, if you believe you'll come back as a bird, then that's what will happen...if you think you will be worm food, you'll be worm food) Hope this makes sense and gives you what you needed.
2006-10-02 11:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by naughtykitty94 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a sense of overwhelming joy when a centipede dies....heck, i even celebrate the occasional passing of an ACLU member. humans are unique in the sense that we are aware of the fact that death is a biological certainty. so, when we feel a connection on any level to another living thing, it is natural for us to mourn. there are those who mourn, and there are those who don't. it's different with everyone.
2006-10-02 12:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by }pixie{ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to grieve,because we are humans and we have emotions,but I am a christian and many other Christians just like me,we don't grieve and carry on like the world grieve who have no hope,because we know that our hope and trust is in Jesus Christ,and that when something or someone we love die,that we will see that person again when we get to heaven,try Jesus he is all you need.
2006-10-02 11:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by donangelo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could also be that the person (or cat) cannot do anymore in their lives, they won't experience a new day, hear new songs on the radio or try something new and you won't be able to share those times with that person.
2006-10-02 11:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by chimpy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How could we possibly feel happy about losing a loved one?? I also lost a cat recently and feel like you do, Sad : (...there is nothing wrong with feeling sad!!
2006-10-02 11:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by widow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋