Women only...Does your husband, or SO help you out around the house?

Question

Does he cook for you? Help take care of the kids? Help you clean the house? You know, the type of things a good husband is suppose to do.

Answer 1

YES! My husband works seventy hours a week and somehow he still understands that since I stay home with the kids I am ALWAYS working. When he is home he tells me to go out if I want. He cooks all the time. He helps me with our two children. I don't take credit for him being this way. He's always been this way towards me. It may be because his dad left when he was younger and he helped take care of his siblings so he knows what he's doing.

Answer 2

I don't have kids, but if you have them he should help when he's home. Yes we cook about equally. Sometimes I do, sometimes he does, but usually we cook together.

I do all laundry, and most dishes, but when I ask him to do the dishes he usually does it (at least when he has time).

As far as cleaning, he'll tidy up, sweep, clean up the kitchen, but usually I'm the one running around with the Pledge, Windex, Tilex, etc. I wish he would do more of that, or at least do all the tidying because I tidy and use the cleaners and its a lot of work.

However, if you're a stay at home mom, it wouldn't be surprising that he expects you to do all that. If you're not in school and you don't have a job....what else do you really have to do? Babies and toddlers are tough because they require so much attention and it's hard to clean too.

When I was a nanny (kids were 8 and 12), I was only around from 4pm-10pm and I drove the kids to 4 different activities, cooked dinner for the whole family, cleaned the kitchen, did laundry and even cleaned the kids rooms and family room, and got the kids to bed on time. I can't imagine what one could do with a whole day lol. Probably a lot more.

Answer 3

My husband is an awesome help. When our child was younger, he was totally willing to help with our child, in all aspects. He's strong and good at some things around the house, so he has always done those - like the handyman stuff, and the vacuuming. I've had some major problems with my hands, so he has recently had to do the dishes, for example. If I wash dishes by hand, I can't do anything the rest of the week. He washes the tub and floor, I do the rest. He washes the kitchen floor, I do the rest. Get it? If I ask, and he is able, he is willing. He knows I wouldn't ask unless it were really necessary, so he helps out. It's his family, too, and our son has always helped out as well - depending on what he could do for his age.

Answer 4

My husband basically only helps out if he absolutely has to. We have five kids and I have health problems now so he has been increasingly pushed into the position of helping out more now that I am less and less able to get things done. When I am sick he helps out alot more than he ever used to. I can get him to do dishes, take care of the kids, make easy meals, that sort of thing....

Generally though he has had this primitive unspoken attitude towards housework as being the wife's job...He has had the attitude that I have it so much better than him because he has a paying job and has to go to work and I get to stay home all day with the kids.

I used to work until I got pregnant with the fourth child. I have also since then had some chronic health problems that prevent me from working whether or not we were to have five children....

He is getting better about it as he sees how my health and medications affect my ability to get things done...he has more compassion than he did even a year ago. He can still be difficult though....

Answer 5

Yes, my b/f does help around the house. He was a bachelor when I met him , and he says that there are no blue jobs or pink jobs. I help him work on the yard and the vehicles, and he will help around the house with dishes and such. Now that we are living together, he works, and I don't, I have most of the housework done when he comes home. But he still will cook and help with the dishes, clean the toilet and the litter box and takes out garbage. He says that he doesn't mind because it is our house and he helps make the mess. I think this will be a permanent thing.

Answer 6

If i need any help he will help. I just have to ask. He will offer from time to time just to make sure. In my 1st trimester when i was really ill feeling he cleaned the house, cooked, cleaned the bathrooms etc. He still cooks for me because i am not a very good cook and he's great at it. He doesn't mind. I prepare other foods while he does the grilling.

Answer 7

My husband and I have specific chores we both do, but many things we split 50/50. He does most of the cooking and I do the dishes. I fix things around the house and he fix things on the car. We work out very well together. We do not have any kids...we are enjoying our selfish time right now.

Answer 8

Right now he works nights, goes to school during the day and sleeps when he can. I don't mind that he doesn't do a lot of the chores because I stay at home on disability. He does help with dishes and baths on his nights off. And gets up with the baby.

When I was preggers with our second child I had a stroke and had to be on bedrest almost the whole pregnancy. He did all the chores, including taking care of me and our oldest child, bringing me to appointments, physical therapy, etc. Not one complaint. He deserves his time to rest now, not that there's much rest in his schedule.

I know he's a rare breed, and he's not perfect by far, but God put him in my life for a reason. I'm sure your husband has many qualities that make him a perfect fit for you even if housework isn't one of them.

Answer 9

Well mine guy sweeps, mops, does the laundry and every now and then cleans the bathroom I think is only fair he helps out since I work just like he does. But if I did not have a job I would not expect him to do any house work. Marriage is 50% 50% and as along as you remember that you'll have a good one.

Answer 10

hey, I'm not a woman, but I'll tell you what I do to help around my house. I cook, sometimes - she cooks, too - it's just part of it. I do laundry, regularly - moreso than she, I do dishes, also moreso than she. But, she is Mom, and she raises our children while I'm outside the home working.

I do feel a little guilty, because sometimes I will come home and sit in my chair and watch the game while she scrambles around helping the kids with homework, baths, and getting ready for bed. But, I do help out in these areas sometimes.

I feel like I do a lot around the house, but I also feel like I should do more - especially with the kids.

Now, if your husband doesn't do any of these things, then he needs to get off his *** and help a bit!!