My husband's parents don't have much envolment with my son's life. On the other hand my husband's sister's kids get everything. This really upsets me because it is not fair to my son. When my mother-in-law has been confronted with this she denies it. How can I deal with this?
2006-10-02 04:27:21 · 11 answers · asked by faybe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My mother did this with my kids....she favoured my daughter over my sons. When I lived with them she would tell my boys to play in the bedroom but my daughter could roam the house. When she called she would ask about my daughter but not my sons.
Some people never get a clue, no matter how much you try to politley tell them the facts. You just can't change rude or inconciderate people.
Tell your kids that the way they are treated is not right and that one day when they have kids you hope they remember and try very hard to treat everyone equally.
2006-10-02 04:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In-laws are in-laws. Is ther some reason they don't like you? I know that is not a good enough reason to treat your son like this but to them it might be.
Is this your husbands child or is it from a previous relationship?
Some parents are just that way, maybe there was favoritism between the kids and it has passed on to the grand kids.
Who knows? Some people are just as*holes
2006-10-02 11:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot effectively deal with this problem.
Your husband needs to confront his own parents about this inequality.
It really is not a problem if your son doesn't ever know about the unfair treatment. Be sure YOU are not the one telling your son about what gramps are doing for their precious cousins.
2006-10-02 11:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is her son. Her daughter's children will always seem more interesting to her. What is your relationship like with her. It does reflect on the children. If you build a good relationship with her and talk to her more about your family life and yes even ask for advice she will treat you more like a daughter and you children more like her grandchildren. It is a women thing, your kids probably get a lot from your mother.
2006-10-02 11:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by ladyg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what your going through my son is 7yrs old and my husbands mom is a *********. to him. just let it go that's what I did she lives like 5 minutes away from us and she hasn't seen him for a month. but my son has a wonderful grandma and that's my mom! just let it be and leave it in the hands of god. people like that are never happy
2006-10-02 11:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by PRI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats to bad, my son is the first born grand kid so he gets lots of lovin. Mabe you could explain presise details to her, and how they make you feel. If it continues then mabe it has nothing to do with you and all to do with them. My father will only speek to my one sister (out of 6) because he feels we should feel sorry for him and i dont, so my son is out that relationship. Which is sad but its his decistion. Stop forcing it mnabe it will work its way out. Good luck!!!!
2006-10-02 11:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, my dear, stole her little baby boy when you married your husband..Mother in Laws never forgive that..Sorry but just accept it..Your son is being punished for what you did
2006-10-02 11:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by dwh12345 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know what, i have this attitude that if you don't like me, then i don't like you either...i don't need them in my life, as long as i have my husband and my kids, they're my family that's all that matters to me..
2006-10-02 11:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by dede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that they don't want to be close to your children. Nothing you can do about it. In the end it might be their loss..........your children won't be close to them. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
2006-10-02 12:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they don't realise and think you are okay. Try sitting them down to talk about it.
2006-10-02 11:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋