Do you chose your friends by how they look?

Answer 1

Yes, most people are too ugly to hang out with me. I only surround myself with the most beautiful people. All of my friends are fashion models, and if you take offense to that, then it is probably because you are ugly.

Answer 2

Wow- a lot of people on here are LIARS!

He he he. Just kidding!

But seriously, these people who say that they don't judge by appearance either are deliberately covering up the truth, or they are not AWARE of it. But we all judge according to appearance. I don't think it's morally right, but I think that subconsciously, we all do it.

Think about this for a minute:

Say you're driving on a two lane road in the middle of a sunny day. The traffic is very light. It's a brisk day in Autumn. As you drive, you see a hitchhiker on the side of the road. He is visibly filthy, and has dirt or mud on his face and clothes. His clothes are dirty, torn, and ragged. He is unshaven, and looks like a drifter.
Would you pick him up? Be honest!

What if, instead, you saw a man who is dressed in an Italian Business suit on the side of the road. He is carrying a briefcase. He is well groomed in appearance, and has expensive looking clothing on. He smiles, and looks friendly.
Would you pick him up?

I would bet that 90 percent of the people who read this (especially the ones who said that they don't choose friends based on appearances) would have said that they would not pick up the first hitchhiker. Most people would have been willing to pick up the well-dressed hitchhiker, though.

And that's the irony. The first man could have been a millionaire- or an angel- or just a mirage.

The second man could have been a violent killer. And so could the first have been- but the point is that people judge others based upon appearance. It's human nature. And if it truly is human nature, and not something we are conditioned to do, then maybe it is wrong for us to condemn one another for it.

I say that friends- even platonic friends- have to have similarities in order for them to get together. Like with members of the opposite sex, there has to be at least some physical attraction there. Otherwise, the friendship would not exist.

I try to rise above those impulses to judge people, and look beyond the facade. In fact, I like people who stand out, or whom are seperate from the crowd. I like them, because I am like them in a way.

Answer 3

We choose our friends on people we wish to become more like, so if we want to be happy or confident then we chose our friends accordingly, there have been tests done on 5 year olds to test that theory, and they found that the best looking kids in the reception classes (I mean ones that had their hair neat and clean faces and happy smiles and that) were more popular throughout their school lives. Isn't that bizarre, but we don't know if that means that the good looking people have always been told that they're cute and nice, they might grow up to be more pleasant and confident because of it, therefore becoming more and more popular!

Answer 4

it's probably the first real way you have of seeing if someone is like you. Although some people don't seem to be admitting it. It's our way of choosing the people we are most likely to get on with. After all you can't be friends with everyone, how often have you seen a punk rocker hanging around a girly girl?.

Of course you get to know people and then your view may change for the better or worst, but we all prejudge it's a defence mechanism whether we admit to it or not.

Answer 5

No way! I choose my friends by the content of their character. Looks will fade or change over the years, but a strong moral character will last a lifetime. Some of the most beautiful people in this world are not the most physically attractive people, at least by society's standards.

Answer 6

No but I know someone who said she won't be friends with any girl who is more attractive than her so she always stands out- but also wont be seen with people too much uglier because they might "bring her down".

I think that's completely awful, but not as uncommon as we'd like to think.... girls in particular can be very shallow, even if it's only subconscious. You know those big groups of skinny blondes who all look the same? How do those groups form?

Answer 7

i think we do...as much as we like to think we are not shallow but the saying "birds of the feather". I believe we a subconsciously chose a friend and love ones within a instant of seeing them. The same as when you know you don't like someone before you even talk to them....i think its pre programmed instinct

Answer 8

No, I chose my friends by how they act or if they need a friend.

Answer 9

Anyone that answer "No" are liars.

Our visual senses will direct us and attract us to the good looking. That is the first filters to befriending someone.

We wouldn't have known a leprosy is a nice and civilised person unless we approach them first. But then again, will you approach them for no reason at all? So how do you befriend him/her?

Answer 10

All of the above are liars!!!!
of course people choose their friends by how they look! You wouldnt wann be out on the pull with the ugliest person on the planet, or with sum1 who physically repulses you.
Can anyone honestly say to themselves that they dont automaticaly judge people on how they dress or if there overweight or jus plain ugly??!! Its a natural human thing to do. people tend to be friends with people who they consider of equal attractiveness!

Answer 11

No I chose my friends by who they are and how much we have in common and if I enjoy their company