Me and a close guy friend have been good friends for 10 months now. We met very randomly and clicked from the first day.We're best friends, we do everything together, and recently have been living the lives of a couple, but aren't.Since I've met him, I haven't dated anyone.I've been comfortable with what we share.We've become intimate and the feelings have escalated.He's jealous of my male friends and I'm jealous of his female friends.We haven't been spending as much time lately and I seem to take it out on him.We got in a big argument a little over a week ago and he decided that he was tired of all the jealousy fights and would just give up on making the friendship work and sent a text explaining it, and asking me to please leave him alone.I did just that, but sent a heartfelt e-mail to end on good terms.It's been a week and 3 days and he finally called me.After we hung up,he text,I'm not mad at you.I thought I lost him, but he came back,do you think we could possibly start somethin
2006-10-02 04:01:55 · 12 answers · asked by Charlies_Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that the two of you have something but you both need to work on the jealousy. That can kill any relationship. The two of you know that both of you have other friends of the opposite sex so it shouldn't be an issue. You have to trust each other and know that the other people are just friends and that you only want to be with each other. Jealousy is normal. If you have trust then it shouldn't be an issue. Both of you need to sit down and figure out what the both of you want and get through the jealousy. As long as you two work things out yes I believe you two can start something again but work your issues out first or this time he may not come back or vice versa. Good luck.
2006-10-02 04:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Heather A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you and you pal have a very controlling relationship. It is pretty normal to get protective over those you love so dearly. Unfortunately, it sounds like he does not appreciate it in the same way you do. If you want to keep him I would suggest that you don't show him how possessive you can be and continue to be "best friends" with him. Eventually he will see how great that type of girlfriend could be for him (you). Guys are usually more scared to ruin a great friendship and get totally freaked at the thought of losing "the coolest chick" ever as a buddy. Don't go into girlfriend role quite yet, play it cool and let him see how much he would be missing if he only wants to be your pal.
Don't read this as a suggestion to hook up with some other dude to make him jealous; that will really turn him off. Good luck.
2006-10-02 11:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by mollymolls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like all along one or both of you has been a little apprehensive about your relationship - because that's what it was, regardless of what you called it.
Your fight was supposedly over jealousy, like you shouldn't be jealous of each other's opposite sex friends because you're just friends...sounds like there's a disconnect there. After 10 months, you should be able to decide if you're still "just friends" or not.
First of all try to decide how you really feel. Do you really want to be "together"? If you do, tell him that and see what he says. Jealousy will never get you anywhere regardless. It sounds like you've just never defined what you mean to each other, so you don't know how to judge the other guys/girls in each other's lives.
2006-10-02 11:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with him and he is in love with you, taking a friendship to the "next level" is easier once you've established a solid foundation through being friends first. The saying, if you love something, let it go and if it comes back, it was meant to be, is true to a certain extent. Sometimes it takes a few days, weeks, months or even years. But if it is there, it will always be there, through the good and the bad. Good luck.
2006-10-02 11:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by coolguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had been a couple literally sweetie.He has the right to be jealous as much as you have.I'm happy that he's come back and please do start it over again.Fighting and quarrel over issues like that is healthy and actually keep a relationship stronger.You'll soon find out how important it is sometimes to express things rather than hiding them.It's like a dose of medicine you take every now and then to maintain your health.He's done nothing wrong to you and he deserves a warm hug.
2006-10-02 11:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work, he obviously has feelings for you. But you better work on your jealousy and make it clear to each other what each of your intentions are.
2006-10-02 11:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Crapcleanwrestler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two have something special but give it some time. Take things slow.
2006-10-02 11:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by faybe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is real.Like the old saying goes "If you love somebody enough you have to set them free ,and if they come back then you know it is real."
2006-10-02 11:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by speeddemon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is afraid of what he feels. it can happen, tlk to him, lay everything on the table at least that way you will know for real. good luck
2006-10-02 11:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYGIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be real
2006-10-02 11:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋