He works non-stop which is not bad,his mother knows nothing of me,when we are together it's for maybe 30 minutes,he never says he loves me unless we are fighting,and he never picks up his cell phone when I call.
2006-10-02 03:57:09 · 17 answers · asked by TheGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have been together for going on 3 years in march,and it has been this way since then.I truely love him,and I know he loves me,but he just doesn't show it.He is from Iran and I am a black american.His mother does not want him dating outside the race.I know it's religious,but what should I do?When I need money or help with rent he won't help me because he says he wants me to be independant,even if I have to get kicked out of my apt.I have to beg him for money and he is a 23 year old guy with thousands of dollars that he has saved by working everyday for 16 hrs a day since we have been together.
2006-10-02 04:35:13 · update #1
Explain how you are feeling without having an argument. Tell him how much you love him and respect him for working as much as he does, but tell him you are feeling lonely and inquire about having 1 special night of the week that he would be able to commit to. If he is working so much to save money, see if he can commit to both of you cooking dinner together then sharing it and renting a movie maybe,,,, inexpensive night but special none the less.
Best Of Luck
2006-10-02 04:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless it's under extrenuating circumstances and it's his busy season at work, I think it's time to ditch your bf. I wouldn't even call a person like that a bf. If they care about you, they'll spend the time to see you and spend time with you, get to know each other etc. Fighting always happens but never picking up the cell may be a sign. Right from the start, he's not treating you well...you need to way your options.
2006-10-02 04:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by steven h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you not selfish! You must have a chat with him about how you feel otherwise what is the point of being together and fighting obivously there is problems when you fight and he does'nt answer his phone. You need to communicate and find some time when you can be together.
2006-10-02 04:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Darren G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not selfish, but maybe this is not the guy for you. The purpose of dating is like an interview -- to find out whether the person is suitable or not for you. Apparently, this isn't working out because you need more attention than he can provide.
2006-10-02 04:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you're not being selfish at all. I sympathise with you for having a boyfriend who does not cherish you as much as you do. You really must be frustrated. I suggest that you keep an open mind and weigh other proposals from would-be-boyfriends. I feel your state of rejection. Be cheerful!
2006-10-02 04:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by YBB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this question. This is not a functional relationship. You are being used. Time to move on because life is too short to waste your precious time on this. If he wanted to be with you, he would be.
2006-10-02 04:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but i dont think the guy's taking the relationship seriously.His mum doesnt know abt u?how long have u been together,if it's been long,am afraid there's nothin there.
2006-10-02 04:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You must think nothing of yourself.... Or is he the only dateable guy in your town of , what, 10 people? Get out and see the world with your eyes not his!!!!!!!
Dump him!!
2006-10-02 04:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by LD B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like you two are together. Have a chat with him and tell him your feelings about it. If it doesnt improve, then maybe it will be better off if you two are not together.
2006-10-02 04:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he rarely spends time with you, then it might be simply time to find a new one...Good Luck
2006-10-02 04:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋