well in my school there's a boy who follows us ( me and my company) in the breaks constantly, because he has no friends at all!! he's kind, but we wanna be alone!! he keeps on doing that, although we have made clear to him that we don't want him!! it isn't that he's bad, he's a good kid!! he isn't in love with any girl of my company ( don't imagine this, it's out of the question) but becoz he's alone he wants to have some friends! on the one hand i feel sorry for him but on the other hand we want our freedom! any solutions?? (plz serious answers and not alternatives- for example see it other way and so on)! if anyone can think something!! plz
2006-10-02 03:48:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
BIG PROBLEM?? Oh honey, this is not a big problem. But anyway, it sounds like this kid doesnt have any friends and is trying to make some. Why not try to involve him in your conversations? I know its sounds like a drag and he is annoying but in the end you might find out something new. When I was in high school there was this one boy who really liked my friend and followed her around. She got mad at him one day cursed him out in hallway in front of everyone and embrassed him. She was really mean, so he stopped bothering her, actually never talked to her again.
Ok, so now its been about 8 years since high school. We recently saw this geeky boy and now he is HOT! We went to talk to him and now it sounds like he has the perfect life. She really regrets telling him off and wish she was nicer to him, So think about what you can do with this...in the future he might turn out to be something hes not.
PS: This is NOT a big problem. Try putting yourself in his shoes.
2006-10-02 03:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll have to agree with everyone on this. Be his friend. From the information that I've gathered about you, you're in high school. You can include him in conversations, but when you have some "girl time" with your girlfriends, let him know that he cannot be included. Try being in his shoes and know what it's like to not have any friends. I'm not trying to tell you what to do or anything but you need to stop being so stuck up and trying to have your "clique" together. Have an open mind and let other people hang out with you. Since you wanted a serious solution, you got one. Good luck. Remember: what goes around, comes around.
2006-10-02 11:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i know or i can imagine how u feel having some1 always around u when all u want is being alone with ur friend or with d ones u know better. But if it was u?! If it was u who doesnt have no1 to talk to, or to play, or ... how would u feel? Don't u think dat d best way 2 solve ur problem is ACCEPT HIM AS A FRIEND and be his friend? After all dat's all he wants isn't it?! U said he is a good kid...so what r u waiting for???Do u know how hard it is 2 find a good person to b our friend? It's not easy, not at all....
My advice is: BE HIS FRIEND!
2006-10-02 11:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by LovelyPortuguese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a nice guy, take a couple of minutes during the day to talk to him or hang out with him. Once you get to know him, you can say "I like you a lot, but the 'party crashing' thing you do isn't cool. I think my friends would like you more if you could just chill a little. You don't have to try so hard, just give them a little space. They'll come around. "
Whatever you do, don't be mean or hurtful. Treat him like you'd want someone to treat you in this same circumstance.
2006-10-02 11:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him to excuse you for a while as you would like to speak privately. If he is the nice person you say he is, he should respect your right to some privacy. You may be able to introduce him to some guys his age, that he may share some of the same interests with. He probably would like more friends but is to shy to approach new people himself. Patience is a virtue and I am sure you can find a kind way to redirect him.
2006-10-02 11:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of your answers is be friends with him, and you clearly don't want that. I say that in the nicest way you can just tell him he's a nice kid but he need to stop following you and that you needyour peace. he'll understand and good luck.
2006-10-02 10:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about just becoming friends with him and quit being so self absorbed in your own pitiful little clicks that you can't include another potentially good friend. Have some decency and quit being so stuck up.
2006-10-02 10:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by rahlyd swamp muffin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he follow it mean he in love with one of you for sure and give that poor kid a chance it ok to be friends with him i don;t see any problem and beside what goes around come around
2006-10-02 10:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend to him, let him join your group. Like you said he's a nice kid.
2006-10-02 10:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn Treader 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u and ur company should introduce him to somebody u all know or seem lonely and hope they become friends
2006-10-02 10:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by creecree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋