i have been friends with this girl for just over 4 years, at 16 that is a pretty long time, we were best friends, but in the last year, she has been acting like we are just aquaintances, she hardly calls (1x a week) we used to spend hours on the phone, she never returns my e-mail, and we only see each other like 1x a month, she has made a bunch of new friends, and that doesnt bother me, but we were BEST FRIENDS!! i got expelled a year ago, and that is when all of this started to happen. i still want to be best friends, only she doesnt seem to want to really make an effort, what should i do? should i just let it go, move on like she seems to be, or keep waiting, will she realize that she doesnt have a best friend anymore? any advise for ways to make this work, it is breaking my heart, we were closer than i am with anyone, she kept me alive when i was suicidal (i am not anymore, total 360) i am not ready to let go, there is no more drama in my life, so why is she dropping me now?
2006-10-02 03:47:48 · 11 answers · asked by shenae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have sent her letters, like in the mail.. cuz neither of us are very good at actually having a heart-to-heart...we tried that once... it ended in making mashed potatoes at 2 in the morning... cuz we didnt know what else to do....everytime i send her a letter, she doesnt mention it... or if i leave a message, and say "hey, call me" she never does...
she says that there is something going on in her life, that she has not told anyone (it is a family thing) and she said that she would tell me when it felt right... that was 4 months ago... i still have no idea... i feel like maybe that is shoving a little extra distance in between us.. when we really didnt need it... and we went out like last week just to hang out.. and the whole time she was obsessed with this boy... and we didnt talk about anything... even though she promised we would...
2006-10-02 04:05:28 · update #1
i am going to be so honest with u that it might hurt ur feelings but i am only telling u the truth and nothing but the truth,the reason why she stopped being seeing u frequntly is that u got expelled from school,so she does not want to be a friend with a loser,but if u have the courage go talk to her and express ur feelings to her if u can take what ever she answers u,i recommend to talk to her about ur feelings to her and if she did not respond,than u have no choice but to move on with ur life and find some true friends who would stick togther what ever what happens,and do not be sorry about losing her coz she will not be a true friend if she didtches and leave u like that,i know what is the meaning of true friendship coz i live in it i have a friend like no other,we r true friend and we have been exposed to a lot of real trouble togther and we all the time stick togther,like we had a car accident toghther and supported each other when our realtives die,and help each other out when in trouble or when in need emotionally or physiclly or financially,i would not leave my friend whatever is the case we both would not hesitate to take a bullet for the other or give our life if recuired to help a friend,yes that is true friendship not a so called friend that will leave u at first trouble in life,i feel very sorry for u,u need to find some true friends.good luck and god help u.
2006-10-02 04:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her and be honest, but not mean, about your feelings. If you just let it go, you may one day wonder "what if". If after talking to her about it, and things are still the same, then you should move on. If it is important to you, then you should find out what the problem is.
2006-10-02 03:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Looks like she has made up her mind that you two would not be best friends any longer....move on and make new friends for yourself---maybe by trying to further your education? Good Luck
2006-10-02 03:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoaaaa there!! Alot of "peers" to comply with. I suppose I received what you had been seeking to say... attempt to realise that your peers mainly consider scared that this new lady goes to take their locations. However, that doesnt make their habits proper or appropriate. Also, in the event that they had been real your peers they might take delivery of your new determined pal into your click on with out query. I suppose you fairly handiest have 2 peers... and you realize who they're.
2016-08-29 09:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by bollinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her about the problem just you and her plan a special day where u and her can hang out and just see what going with y'all friendship if u talk to your friend about it maybe she will tell u whats going on
2006-10-02 03:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by Derrick J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go find new friends. dnt just mop about it, just move on. maybe you guys will become close again, but for the mean time just keep your self busy.
2006-10-02 03:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm well the best way out is a heart-to-heart talk..............talk to her...tell her what you feel.....there must be some reason behind her behaving this way........maybe she's trying to act cool in front of other frndz........you never know..maybe evn she wants to talk to you......so well u'll never come to know of the reason till u talk it out with her...
2006-10-02 03:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She evidently was never the friend you thought she was, if I were you I would move on,sorry
2006-10-02 03:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by Paula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FRIENDS COME AND GO. MOVE ON FIND OTHER FRIENDS.
2006-10-02 03:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is getting interested in guys.
how about you?
2006-10-02 08:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋