Help! My white friends wont accept me, what shall I do?

Question

My dear internet brothers and sisters,

I am a black dude that goes to a white school, I trie to follow the caucasian behaviour patterns, common interest and language style. However, whenever I attempt this my white friends make fun of me.

What shall I do?

Answer 1

Try keeping to yourself for a while. Everyone wants to belong and they are a liar if they say that they don't. These people that you call friend are laughing at you because you are trying to fit in? How very sad. You need to drop the friendship with them and keep to yourself for awhile. They know that they are the in group and you are the out group. These same “friend” of your if put in an all black school would end up trying to fit in using the same method as you are doing with the same results.

Don't make the mistake that I made. I too was brought up in an all white neighborhood and went to an all white school. I wanted to belong so bad that I changed my whole speech pattern and behavior set. I didn’t do this on purpose, I did it subconsciously, but the end result was interesting. If I were speaking to you on the phone you would swear that you were speaking to a white man.

Unfortunately for me though my own people reject me now because I sound and behave too Eurocentric. It took years for me to figure out what I had done to myself. I stopped trying to gain the acceptance of white people. It is now irrelevant and so is their approval of me. I stopped being ashamed of myself when black people I meet reject me right off when they hear me speak. Calling me Uncle Tom and Sellout...that too is just as stupid. They don’t know me. I now need no ones approval because I have found myself. I know who I am, and they don't.

You need to be by yourself right now. Put a stop to trying to get these people’s approval. At this point you have to be suspicious of any white that you are hanging out with. Why are they hanging out with you? Maybe some of them are trying to use you as an indicator to the other whites about how “open minded” they are by hanging out with you. Maybe some of them can’t bond with the other whites, so you are their only option. Maybe some are hanging out with you because it makes them look cool, and maybe there is that rare white who is actually hanging out with you because he/she likes you as the person you are.

In order for you to find this out you need to stop hanging out with all of them. Only your real friends will come to you.

-Jax6213

Answer 2

Just be your self. People need to learn that the colour of your skin is not relevant to who you are and it is their problem if they cannot do this.

I am white (officially, although my skin is sort of brown really) and I am going out with a black man. (whose skin is more a chocolate colour than black)
I know he went to a school where everyone except his sister and himself were white. They had a really hard time. He ended up in a few fights and it took a while for people (and some never did) to learn to accept him and like him for himself.
He focussed on getting an education and making something of himself....... and getting to a big city where people where less concerned about skin colour. Vive la difference!

Stay true to yourself. Try not to let them get to you. The world would be a boring place if everyone looked the same- and still some people would find someone to pick on!

I wish you well. :-)

Answer 3

I think that if they were your friends, they wouldn't make fun of you. The best thing you can do is stop trying so hard to fit in and be yourself.
I think that you are probably trying too hard and that's why they are making fun of you.
Don't ever forget where you come from. Your friends should accept the fact that you ARE black and you come from a black culture and background.
I see a lot of white people who try to "act black"... and that is just as ridiculous.

Answer 4

Revel in your uniqueness amongst all these pale faces. Display your culture with pride- not the no belt , look I am in jail culture , so beloved of American youth of course, but the African or Caribbean heritage that gives you street cred and comes with a high degree of pride.
Why on earth would you want to be white? Being Caucasian is no big deal.
When they see that you are your own person they will start to ape you, have no fear. And if they are making fun of you, it could well be that they are already jealous of you. We hide out insecurities in the mask of laughter us whities!!!

Answer 5

Hey guys, I think this is a timewaster. He posted this on another thread...and now he's sayin his white friends don't accept him either! Black, white, seems like nobody accepts this 'dude'!

listen up yo, I want to be black, but my black friends dont accept me. What shall I do?
Ayo, I go to a black school, and I have some black friends, but whenever I trie to be black, e.g listen to hiphop, use black slang, get d's in tests(just kidding, don't flame at me now) they always gun me down for it and call me a 'wannabe wigga'

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Forget it...when you get a bit older you will realise it's about the type of person you are not what category you fit into. Just be yourself and quit trying so hard. Your friends will realise your unique and most likely want to be like you. People want to be around fun confident people, it's human nature. So lift that chin up and just get on with things. You'll see, it's going to be A-OK.

Answer 8

There is no need to adopt caucasian behavior. You are you and they need to learn to accept you for who you are or else they are not your friend. I think they make fun of you because they know you are trying to be something you are not. Just be yourself, the people that love you will stand by you!

Answer 9

Sounds to me like a question put in order to initiate some anti-white answers?

Answer 10

Dear Friend.... sorry they can't get past your race. The best thing you can do is keep being a good friend to them. After awhile, they will know you the person, and your race will not matter.