Why do so many people see divorce as an easy way out of a marriage instead of working at it? Marriage is supposed to be a union between two people under God, but many people don't see it that way.
2006-10-02 03:22:02 · 21 answers · asked by gel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's so sad to see to anger in some of the answers I've received by asking a simple question.
2006-10-02 03:27:24 · update #1
This is kind of a blanket question that you really can't throw out there without sounding obnoxiously arrogant. You can't judge anybody till you've walked a mile in their shoes sweetheart. Especially in regards to marriage.
2006-10-02 03:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because it's a very "ME" society. I'm not happy, life's too short, so I'm leaving. It's 100% bullsh** when you think about it. Leaving the marriage doesn't mean you'll be happier. Even if you're having an affair and want to be with the other person, eventually, life with them will compare to the one you have now. Nobody's100% happy 100% of the time, but in hard times people tend to forget the good and just want to quit and move on. Why do you think there's so many multiple marriages. Each one has a higher chance of failing than the first. If you weren't willing to work it out the first time, why would you the second, third, or fourth time. Unless you've matured in some way by spouse #4. The level of responsibility in this world has some how stopped at "ME." Everyone else is supposed to just adapt to my decision. So the kids have a split up family, they'll adjust. So what if my ex spouse has to file bankruptcy now that they can't afford the house, car and credit cards we ran up for the family vacation. As long as I'm happy. After all life's too short right?
I'm not talking about the divorces due to abuse and neglect. I know those shouldn't last. Nobody should live a life of fear of another human being for any reason.
2006-10-02 10:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not an easy thing. It's a lot of work to keep a marriage going. I think the problem is that people change as they get older. Our ideals at 45 are not the same as they were when we were 20. We develop new interests as well. Unfortunately, couples don't change at the same rate and sometimes one gets left behind. It's hard to stay married to someone when you have nothing in common. You can't make people change, they have to do that themselves on their own life clock. And also, when you get older you think to yourself, "is this all there is? Am I really happy?" Quality of life is what's its all about. God wants us to be happy. Be happy then.
2006-10-02 10:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are lazy now days, especially when it comes to working hard on a relationship. Most people think the marriage will just be all roses and daisies, with out an ounce of work....You used to hear of people being married for 50+ years and sometimes longer, now your surprised to hear 10 years or less. Nobody wants to have commitment, have respect or morals in their marriage anymore, and find it easier to just go on to the next. I am still old fashion and very proud, to admit, marriage takes two, compromise, and work. To some people when they get married they don't even hear all the things they are taking vows too, its just words.....Lets go back to the day when lovers stayed through thick and thin, didn't give up easily, and worked hard to keep a marriage strong....Everyone around us is in "JERRY SPRINGER" mode!
2006-10-02 10:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy answer. Because most people in this country wont acknowledge God or his authority or his moral code. Frankly, they dont have to do so.
See, many years ago, things from divorce to other things held a cost to them. From social stigma to monetary costs to loss of job or promotion, even family ties. Today, people dont seem to lose anything at all by doing the wrong things. It costs them nothing. And face it, if there isnt a cost, why not do just what you want no matter how bad it is?
2006-10-02 11:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think too many people go into marriage with expectations of what might be and they don't have a clear idea of what the other person wants and needs. Also some people marry thinking they can change the other person. Also many marry and over look the red flags.
I also can't understand why so many cheat.........if they can't be faithful then why the hell ever get married. It is a mystery to me too.
2006-10-02 10:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Young adults are not raised to deal with conflict resolution
Everyone wants an immediate satisfaction
Divorce is a quick way out -- too easy to get one
2006-10-02 10:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by IndySasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with u Gel. All couples have their ups n downs, but why settle for a divorce.
They just want the easiest thing out.
2006-10-02 10:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is looking for the easy way out and the courts make it very easy.
2006-10-02 10:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats because divorce is so easy its a get out for free
2006-10-02 10:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by stephen d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋