I have two best friends who are married. They have both been there for me during the worst times in my life. Now my friend is having an affair with a married man. She is shutting everyone out and being mean. She feels like everyone is against her. Her husband is devastated but she has him thinking that it's over with the other guy so he is trying to work everything out. But she is still messing around with the guy. I am the one who outed her little secret and she knows it. She still wants to be friends with me but I am uncomfortable around her when everytime her husband is out of the room she is texting the other guy and then when he comes back in the room and gives her a kiss she is very cold to him. Also her kids know that something is up and they keep coming to me for help, I know that I can't tell them what their mom is doing but how do I comfort them when their mother is ruining their lives?
2006-10-02 03:21:24 · 12 answers · asked by nicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Since she is your "best friend" you should sit down and let her know what you see and how you see her ruining her life. I think it was a good thing that you told her husband that she was having an affair. But now I think its time for the both of them to work out their problems. As a friend you need to stear your friends to the right direction, try to make her understand that what she is doing is ruining her family, she needs to choose who she wants to be with and stop being a whore, she has kids to look after.
2006-10-02 03:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a talk with her and ask her what she wants. If shes unhappy in her marriage then she needs to get a divorce and then she is free to do what she wants. Her kids are going to find out sooner or later and that is going to ruin their relationship with her. She either needs to get a divorce or stop the affair and honestly try to work or her marriage. The lies need to stop. Her husband is going to figure it out also. Tell her to try counseling if she honestly wants her marriage to work. More then likely if she ends up getting the divorce the guy that she having the affair with will not leave his wife for her. When the children ask you questions say that she has alot going on right now and that you are there for them. Make up something. Also let her know that they are asking you questions and that she needs to do something before they do find out. I would do this asap. Hope this helps. Good luck
2006-10-02 03:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Heather A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell the children, that will come out eventually. Her goose will be cooked one day and she will be sorry. The grass isn't greener on the other side. She sounds like she is being rude to everybody. Maybe tell her husband to let him know that you recognize her behavior, that you see she isn't being so nice tohim and you feel bad for him. Good Luck!
2006-10-02 03:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by cruisingalong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 03:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be her friend, just be honest with her.You can comfort the husband and children by just listening, you don't have to do anything else and actually shouldn't. Be careful getting involved in their problems because it's really not your place.
2006-10-02 03:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by fred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all....i know what you mean....i have a sister and the situation is similar in many ways....however...since you asked i have to tell you that i don't think you should have told on her in the first place....it is not your marriage...it is not your life...we are all here on our own journey..to learn our own particular lessons..through our own trials and tribulations...please tend to your own garden so to speak...i know it is hard and you hate it when you see her on that damn cell text the guy...and the most pain is the kids because they do know something is up...just try and not see her in person...keep the communication on the phone...e mail and such...she is not ready to stop what she is doing and neither you or God himself is going to stop her...sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear...
2006-10-02 03:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by vampire angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....talk about drama.....well, if i was in that situation,well..i would probably...talk things out with my friend, or maybe with my friend's "other man", be sure to say what might happen if she continues doing this and , maybe exagerrate the part where her kids might get affected, and make her visualize the future,if she chooses her current husband or the "otherman".....well, i hope this pretty much helps...
2006-10-02 03:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See one can only suggest or give their opinion to someone but cannot change anyones life. same is the case with you. you can't change this situation unless she wants to change herself. only thing you can do is that keep on making her realise that she is wrong and she is doing wrong with her children. Else you have to leave on her and God1
2006-10-02 03:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by crazychori 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her to end it or else you will tell her husband. She must choose and stop being such a sneaky snake.
2006-10-02 03:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is much else you can do. I would just stay out of this.
2006-10-02 03:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by lucy02 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋