We live in a small town in Georgia. He claims he's the only one that's been commited to our marriage. Though, I'm the one still sitting at home taking care of everything waiting on him, while he's done exactly what he's wanted all these years. I'm supposed to do whatever he expects me to do - I can only enjoy things if he okays it and is a part of it. I'm not allowed to get upset or mad or down with him , because then that's when he's going to leave and make me suffer. I've been through ups and downs with the marraige, now when he's making good money this is when he wants to leave and as he says, make me provide for myself. Which I feel I can do its just hard and scary. All these years I could have been doing something for myself, but he claimed he wanted an "old fashioned marriage" an homemaker. He's worked his job all these years, while I've been through many family deaths and received some inheritance and an old home. So do I deserve support if he leaves?
2006-10-02 03:17:01 · 16 answers · asked by fleo27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Consult with an attorney about an old fashioned divorce where you split everything equally; you take the house and assets and alimony; and he takes the debt; a 50/50 split. He sounds sort of like a control freak. The world has changed a little from the old definition of a wife, "somebody who comes between the mr. and mattress and does housework.
2006-10-02 03:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do.
Left him leave, like you said, you make it all by yourself. True, it'll be hard at first but with time everything will be alright and you will actually be happy.
I hope other woman learn from your story. Yes, its nice to have a husband who wants an "old fashion" household and have his wife stay home and take of the kids but sometimes marriages dont last and when he leaves, you'll be broke, depressed with stretch marks. Don't depend 100% on your spouse make sure you have a skill or at least a plan B when/if the marriage dont work out. Its 2006 not 1950.....
Good luck and don't let him play you like a fool, next time he says he's going to leave, let him. He probably cant survive with out you anyway.
2006-10-02 10:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you get support I guess would depend on whether you inherited enough to live on because any courts would take that into consideration. As to whether you deserve support and a 50/50 share personally I would say definitely. If he is threatening to leave obviously he doesn't love you because if you love someone and they are your equal you never threaten to leave. Just let him go it is just too hard on you emotionally when he brings it up over and over again.
2006-10-02 10:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you deserve support if he leaves. Noone deserves to be just left like that with nothing. I was in a similar situation but, we are still together but, I just started having my own life and quit worrying about what he did. Let him go you will be fine all by yourself
2006-10-02 10:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a victim. He only loves himself. Take your inheritance and move to the home given to you. Take with you all the dreams you have had for yourself all these years and expand on that. You are stronger than you think. Go as soon as possible, don't tell him where and when, only for your protection. Let him live with his miserable self, while you get on with the life that you were intended to have.GOD BLESS
2006-10-02 10:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by pazd7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you deserve support if he leaves. You don't mention children but if you have them, you were home taking care of them. Don't let him bully you. Marriage is about sharing. He can't change the rules after the fact.
2006-10-02 10:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by susan10000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts will allow you to get support. It must be hard to live with someone who is so controlling. You should file and let him know that you not going to put up with his crap anymore. He will either realize that he is going to lose you and change his ways, or will allow you the divorce and pay you support. Good luck.
2006-10-02 10:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've put up with him for all these years, sweetheart, you definitely deserve a reward!!!! Looks to me like it wasn't a marriage, but a dictatorship! Marriage is for 2 people. I wish you good luck with your decision!
2006-10-02 10:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he leaves and you never work during your marrage, by law he has to support you in other words half of his pension and bennefits are yours. So go ahead if he wants to leave by no means try to stop him... You be the one enjoying your hard earn money by the beach in florida... God Bless EFIL
2006-10-02 10:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the exact same thing! same situation... I have to tell you to get a lawyer!! fight for yourself because no one will do it for you. men and like babies in adult bodies. they dont know what they want and we as the loving "mommy wives" we feel like we can always fix what the problem. you should do what any good mother would do, let the baby leave the nest! good luck:)
2006-10-02 11:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋