why won't my ex wife leave me alone? constant calls trying to get more money and after everything is final and over, and she always makes sure to have an audience in the background for each call. Is she nut's?
2006-10-02 03:11:52 · 19 answers · asked by poo hat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah sounds like it buddy, have your number changed.. HER CHEESE FELL OFF HER CRACKER
2006-10-02 03:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a little problem there. I would record a few of the calls making sure you have the date and time she calls. Try to get her to same the name of the person in the back ground, because the can be called as an hostile witness if you choose to prosecute her in a court of law. Tell your divorce lawyer call the police. Change your number all that jazz. If you have kids this could be sticky cause this will affect them but I know you don't want your kids raised but a loony like this so its good ammo for custody.
2006-10-02 03:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Htnspyc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brother, you're preaching to the choir. The EXACT same thing happened to me. I was always getting calls for more money. Not once did I ever receive a call that wasn't money related.
I found a really good way to curb her hostile verbal activity. When she started her yammering... *click*. I'd hang up. And then she'd call back and start b!tching me out for hanging up, *click*. She called back and I told her that we were divorced and I didn't have to take her sh!t any more (and yes I used those words), then she'd start in on me again, *click*. When it finally registered in her pea-brain that I wasn't going to put up with her crap, she talked normally. I never screamed or yelled. I remained cool & collected at all times. Never show anger because if you do, then she knows that she got under your skin and will take great delight. Don't give her the satisfaction. Refuse to play her game. Your ex wants control, don't give it.
I paid my ex too. Sent her extra money without question. About every 2 months or so, she was always hitting me up for more $. My son needed shoes, underwear, clothing, etc... etc... Goddamn, no kid goes through 6-8 pair of shoes and a ton of underwear a year. Plus I was paying her good money too. Where was it all going? Basically what I was sending wasn't going to my son at all. My child support payments we nothing more than a supplimental paycheck for her, and the extra I sent WAS being used for him.
When I found out that she'd scammed me on a doctor bill. I put a screeching-@$$ halt to that sh!t. From that moment on I 'demanded' itemized receipts. No receipts, no money. And to top things off I only paid half. No matter how much she b!tched & moaned, I refused to yield. Suffice it to say, my monthly expenditures decreased rapidly.
2006-10-02 04:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is using these calls with an audience to empower herself and to make you look like the bad guy. Stop taking the calls. You sure have better things to do in this life, and need to expand that energy to more positive things. If there are children involved, you need to be the good guy. Never badmouth her to others and only take emergency calls. To her, all calls are an emergency(she feeds off of negativity). Screen them and call back only when necessary.GOD BLESS
2006-10-02 03:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by pazd7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband had this problem when they split and especially after we were together....was she controlling in your marriage???This is her way of controlling you and knowing whats going on in your life..she doesn't want you to move on in life or to have a life that she cant control..be firm with her..if there are kids involved make sure your kids can talk to you whenever the need but limit her time to call..and get caller id if she is calling at an inconvenient time don't answer..give her a time each week she can call to discuss kids and that's that if there are no kids and you don't want to hear from her tell her so with a certified letter and get a return receipt so you can prove she got it if she keeps calling impose harassment charges I know that's harsh but she is determined to ruin your life that's what out experience was any way stand up for yourself and don't let her manipulate your life ..good luck
2006-10-02 03:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything is final let her keep calling. Record about three or four of these calls and then nail her for harassment. Sounds like she's one wave short of a shipwreck and needs to be put aground.
2006-10-02 03:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the number and start screening the calls through an answer machine
2006-10-02 03:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex wife sounds like she hasnt excepted the fact that its really over! If this keeps going on block her number!
2006-10-02 03:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break all ties with her. Call block her. Take her number out of your phone. Don't ever answer. Ignore her. If she's looking for a fight, don't give it to her.
2006-10-02 03:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - probably not enough to do anything about...
If your hubby is tired of these calls to you could tell her that all contact must go thru your lawyer.
get an anwering machine and screen all your calls
2006-10-02 03:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by IndySasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be trying to get you into a position where she can change the status quo I wouldnt be talking to her unless it is about children
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-10-02 03:14:14 · answer #11 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋