i have always tried to avoid scrolling my hubby's phone but something tells me that he is cheating on me and whenever i scroll i found out that he has made calls to different ladies or sent airtime pliz advise me what can i do should i continue or stop but i tell him what i feel latter and he gets to know that i scerolled his phone and he becomes annoyed saying that i don't respect him.
2006-10-02 03:00:53 · 14 answers · asked by halicate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's not right to go through his phone, but if your instincts are telling you he's cheating on you, then he probably is.
2006-10-02 03:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by mixemup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gut has always been right. Caught 4 cheaters. Humans can do anything we want as long as we are willing to pay the consequences. Are you willing to pay the conseq. for scrolling through his phone? Even if your wrong about his actions? People only hide things they feel guilty over. Do U know these women, are the legitimate friends or co-workers? Don't accuse until U have a definte reason though. The truth always comes out. But it would be wise to be on guard and look for other suspious behavior. Good Luck:-)
2006-10-02 10:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Babydoll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course looking through your husband's things without consent is wrong.. But I don't blame you if you just wanted to know. However, I feel that being adults you could like ask him face to face if he is faithful, not too directly?
Or perhaps you are a little sensitive, those females that he is assoicating with could be collueges or friends. Sometimes you have to give your husband a benefit of a doubt and some "space" as well, it is not advisable to be on his heels 24-7.
All the best!
2006-10-02 10:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Numbers on a telephone are just numbers were else in your relationship do you get the feeling that he is cheating. Believe me the signs are there if you look closely. To feel insecure is one thing we all go through we simple allow time to get away from us and need to go back and reconnect. However there must be something else causing you to feel this way. Don't let these feelings go on it diminishes you as a person and you have the right too know.
2006-10-02 10:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by ava_weis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who had spent her marriage of 4 years being lied to the entire time...I'm telling you just get out now. My ex wasn't cheating on me but all he knew how to do was lie about everything. It never got any better, not even with therapy. He was supposed to be going to therapy on his own 3 nights a week and with me 1 night a week and he always had an excuse for not going with me and then his nights he just lied and said he had went.
2006-10-02 10:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I see nothing wrong with going through the phone it shouldn't bother him if he has nothing to hid. You need proof though and you aren't going to get it by telling on yourself. Find differetn ways of check on him without him knowing it. Do you what you will do if it is so and he has other ladies in his life. Does it really matter if he does or doesn't you feel as though he does so maybe it is time to move on anyway! Good luck!
2006-10-02 10:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever heard the saying it's not over until the fat lady sings.you have not caught him cheating on you,yet.it is possible for him to have female friends;i have male friends,my closest friend is a man.don't look for trouble;whatever is done in the dark will come to light.you sound insecure about your relationship.if he is not doing anything this kind of behavior can start him to acting out.stop and think,let him know that your not feeling the love and see how he acts and what he says better to know then to guess
2006-10-02 10:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have instincts, its in our system, first ask him about it if he is cheating, tell him about how you feel about it, if he denies it call those phone numbers. Communication still is the best key. Or just get an investigator. nobody will know just the PI and you. Just to have peace in mind.
2006-10-02 10:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if you are a jealous wife or not. do you trust him? has he ever given you a reason (besides this) not to trust him? if not. you should trust your womanly instincts. i would not go looking for it, if he's cheating you WILL find out. if he's not you are going to drive him into cheating. if you continue to accuse him of it he's gonna figure screw it, if she's gonna accuse me of it i might as well do it. what i would suggest you do is hire a private investigator.
2006-10-02 10:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats crap. How can you respect him if he's cheating and lying. Tell him respect is earned not a given birth right.
2006-10-02 10:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by jassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋