I have been married for a year, to a sweet man. We are both in our fourties, and on our 2nd marriage. We lived together for about 5 yrs before we got married. We totally love each other, but it seems like there is not much interest sexually(mostly on his part), and neither one of us are cheaters, I know that for a fact. Do you think it is because we got married? I haven't gained weight or changed anything.
2006-10-02 03:00:52 · 10 answers · asked by Ellyn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks for so many good answers.
2006-10-02 04:26:29 · update #1
Hard to say. Is he under stress at work or home? Is he really out of shape, that will decrease your sex drive. Maybe he's getting ED and he's embarassed. Or maybe its that whole "who wants to eat the same cereal for breakfast every morning" argument (it's not my argument, so don't yell at me, I'm just bringing it up. My wife and I have been married and we average having sex 7 times a week, just like we did when we were 19 so no it is not required that your sex life change.
2006-10-02 03:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Poppies_rule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Marriage does change things but given the question did the relationship changed from living together for 5 years? I sure that it is more to do with a rut. Best thing to do is try to find something different to break the rut cycle. You can plan a special evening and if you are on your second marriage then its very important to keep the lines open and not let things buildup. Have fun and enjoy each other.
2006-10-02 03:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Marriage absolutely changes things! Most people get way too complacent after getting married and start slowing down sexually because they don't feel like they need to keep that going, even though it's still an important part of the relationship equation.
I don't know why this happens, though I wish it didn't.
2006-10-02 03:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...I think marriage does change everything. Especially after the first 4 or 5 years. I've seen it happen with a lot of people...and it's one of the reasons why I never ever want to get married.
2006-10-02 03:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my marriage of 20 years has made me a better man. My wife changed my life for the good, Marriage, if you have the right person is bliss. Listen, and learn from your mate. In a marriage, you both are supposed grow together, not apart
2006-10-02 03:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not because you got married he just may want a little more excitement and want to try something new. Some people get tired of doing the same thing over and over again but if you change it up there is something to look forward to. Wear something sexy try something different anything will help.
2006-10-02 03:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by BigDawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Familiarity does that to people. Stress as well. Having sex with the same person for so long can just make you bored. Spice things up a bit.
2006-10-02 03:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the thrill of the chase and the mystery that exists between the sexes. Samo/somo kills the spirit.
2006-10-02 04:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got old. some guys don't have any interest in sex when they get in their 40's. And it is possible it changed just from having you all to himself. He got comfortable.
2006-10-02 03:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by jassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-10-02 03:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by 185 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋