i had some probs with my wife and strated cheating on her. nw everything seems fine bet us. so i have told my g/f to buzz off. she insists on meeting me for last time. we dont stay in same city. she plans to visit me for a week. now she say she wants a baby fm me as a reminder, even if i m not going to see her any more. i am afraid of her unpredictable behaviour. if i avoid her she may come to my home or to my office. she says she is lovesick ? i m in deep soup. help?
2006-10-02 02:59:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Where to begin?
1. Does she know where you live? It takes two to visit. She can't visit you if you don't allow it.
2. She can't have a child with you unless you allow it.
3. Does she know where you work, and do you have security where you are? If so, have them be on the lookout for her.
If you haven't already, I'd come clean with your wife about EVERYTHING, including the possibility that this woman is truly psycho. Your first priority is to protect your wife and family. If she doesn't know about the affair, tough. You need to "man up" and confess. You blew it when you cheated on her, but now you have to protect her and she's got to know why. Don't let your fear of her reaction prevent you from keeping her out of harm's way.
Change your phone number; do not accept her calls at work. Have them go to voice mail.
You should probably document each instance she attempts to make contact you; the date, time, method of contact and notes about the conversation. You may want to talk to a lawyer about possibly getting a restraining order against her.
These measures may sound a little extreme, but it doesn't sound like you're dealing with someone "stable."
2006-10-02 03:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want the girl tell her you want her to stay away because you are going to work everything out with your wife and if you really love your wife tell her what has happened so she will know and hopefully she will understand you got caught up in a bad moment in your life and you and your wife can work things out...If the g/f is still trying to be obsessed with you and she won't leave you alone when you tell her maybe you should out a restraining order on her and hopefully that will keep her away..The only reason to put one on her is if you feel she is a danger to u or your family..Let this be a lesson learned for you..I hope everything works out for ya..
2006-10-02 10:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by browneye_ky_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever watched the movie "Fatal Attraction" - sounds like the woman from that movie - you should have watched the movie before you cheated on your wife as a warning as to what can happen when you get involved with unstable people.
2006-10-02 10:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't meet her, get a restraining order, tell your wife that someone has been stalking you just in case the women does show up, and please don't reproduce with this women there are enough kids in the world who don't have a daddy!
2006-10-02 10:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow watch out. This girl sounds dangerous.
2006-10-02 10:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she sounds CRAZY. Keep away, far far away.
2006-10-02 10:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE NO BUSSINESS BEING MARRIED.
YOU ARE A PRIME CANIDATE FOR
DONTDATEHIMGIRL.COM YOU SUCK.
2006-10-02 10:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋