2006-10-02 02:47:14 · 26 answers · asked by clair r 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Life's very unfair that way. I know this is easy to say, but you really have to not think about all the idiots out there who are allowed a child. I see all sorts of chavs and halfwits pushing prams and expecting another and sometimes have 3 or 4 kids all by different fathers/mothers and me and my husband have tried everything and have practically given up on having a baby after 7 years of nothing when we have a nice life, good jobs and a loving home to give to just one child. I'm sorry but it's just tough! You have to play with the cards you're dealt and make the most of it because you really can't change things like that. I spent so long thinking 'maybe if I didn't have that pint of beer this month then I'd have conceived'. You can drive yourself loopy and for what? You can't change it. You have to accept that nobody said that life would be fair unfortunately. If you're healthy and happy with life other than having a child then you really do have alot more than some people. I know none of this really helps, but you're not alone sweetie. After a long time stuck in this position I'm coming out of the other side and I'm doing ok, so you will be too, with or without a baby.
God, I waffle on sometimes. LOL
2006-10-03 04:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can say that about almost anything...... it's called life and we have to deal with the cards we have been dealt with. Instead of wasting your energy on negative thoughts, try remaining positive and focus on all the good things you have - things other people wished they had!
The baby issue is a very hard one (my brother and his wife are going through it at the moment and I've offered to be a surrogate for them). I've seen how destructive it can be when you start to resent other peoples ability to have children (whether or not you think they deserve a child or not).
If it's you who wants a baby and you can't then I am sending you a very big hug of comfort and support and to tell you to try and not let it destroy all the good things you have in your life.
2006-10-02 10:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those people that have babies and don't want them are brainles, as they perhaps never paid attention to their parents or in school as to the consequences, or they're just after money from the gov as they are too f***ing lazy to work and claim child benefit. Those who can't.... I feel sorry for. Everyone should be able to have a child. I can have children, but to be honest, i would like to adopt as well as there are those children that come from families such as the ones described above who need a loving family.
2006-10-02 10:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by dajloesque 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a question alot of us who have had problems conceiving ask ourselves. Life is not fair. I have a special needs child and for the longest time I also asked myself this question. I have done nothing wrong no drinking, smoking, etc and I went to the doc just like one is supposed to do......yet I have a special needs child. Then there are ppl who can do drugs, smoke, drink etc and never or hardly ever go to the doc and have a perfectly normal child. It took me awhile to get over this but then I finally realized, It takes a special person to raise a special child. If those ppl who have normal children cant even take care of them then how in the world would they ever take care of a special needs one? So I guess my answer to your question is try looking at it at a different perspective, I know it is hard, I have been in your shoes. Maybe you are one of those special ppl who were meant to adopt and change a child's life that way and the child change yours. Good Luck and if you ever need to just chat and exchange feelings you are more than welcome to message me. Again good luck and I hope that this helps
2006-10-02 09:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by baby j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is the same as when one wants a baby and those that cannot have one. Those that dont want one, and get one, they don't know how lucky they are ....they could fix their lives..a baby gives alot more than you think!
2006-10-02 09:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Gary H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people who dont want one arent trying to make one, and the people who do want one are trying to make it happen.
Babies happen natrually when you have sex, if more people who wanted them simply relaxed and had sex for fun they'd also end up with babies. Its a very casual thing, you cant MAKE it happen. Thats why so many who dont want babies are pregnant, and those who long for months and years are barren.
2006-10-02 09:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think people who don't want babies, might not have babies on their minds 24/7 and that's why they might forget about protection. Then people who really want a baby and are thinking about babies 24/7 might be getting themselves so stressed out that it messes up their cycles/fertility.
2006-10-02 11:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think we would all like to know the answer to this one. We have been ttc and I find out the other day that my best friend is pregnant and is planning on having an abortion. Nobody ever said life is fair.
2006-10-02 11:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by drea112785 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because some people think having a baby is a solution to all their problems
2006-10-02 09:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by jillybean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats Life hun, me & my hubby have been ttc for 12 months and not got anywhere yet, but my friend who has just split rom her hubby got pregnant after a 1-nite-stand
2006-10-02 10:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by eiramannej 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋