2006-10-02 02:42:02 · 19 answers · asked by the wizard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave her and take custody of the child
2006-10-02 02:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to shorten your question and THEN add your comments to fill us in. But from what little I can gather from you're question I'll try to answer.
NEVER and I mean NEVER get back with an ex for the childs sake. Bad move, very bad move. Either she's laying some guilt on you and as a father you want to do the right thing or you are just plain stupid. I have no idea which.
Methinks that the ex found out that the grass wasn't as green as she thought and suckered your @$$ back in. Probably gave you ALL kinds of reasons to take her back. And as a male you 'rationalized' it, but didn't go with your gut. Now you're like a rat caught in a maze again.
When you go down on the wife, do imagine how many ***** have been there since you divorced? Well, you should. Prior to the marriage is a different story. But since then, no way.
My advice, GET THE FCUK OUT!!! Run long, run hard & run fast, but whatever you do RUN!
2006-10-02 03:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got back together for the child, that was your mistake. Why should the child suffer because you 2 didn't work out the problems 1st.
Suck it up & go to councling work it out.
Neither one of you had the right to put the child in the middle.
Putting the child on a roller coaster like this is not fair to her.
Don't argue in front of the child NEVER.
You should have only got together if you love each other nothing less.
If you do love your partner then you will find a way to trust again, it won't be easy, it will take time.
Find away to fix this problem before it causes damage to the child forever.
Good Luck and try hard.
2006-10-02 03:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not reason to go back, because you can still take care of your daughter and not have to live in the pressure cooker. If it was bad enough for you two to divorce, then why keep the thing going afterwords???
Sometimes we do things we " think" are in best interest of others. I too stuck it out until mine finished school (college) and had to leave. I talk to the ex regular, cause we have a child together, but there is no way I would go back into that environment and live the way I was living.
Get out, get your head together and let her go on with her life, and you go on with yours,. Spend as much quality time with your daughter as you can, always be there for her no matter what.
Your life will turn around and you will be thankful you made the move.
2006-10-02 03:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by bigmikejones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never...and I do mean never....get back together for the sake of a child. The marriage is a shambles at this point and the two of you living together only leads to tension and arguments that are easily percieved by the child, who is very young and impressionable. Get a divorce and then figure out arrangements for your daughter from there. Believe me, it will be much better for her this way. She'll still get to see both parents, but she won't have to deal with the aggravation and tension between you two.
2006-10-02 03:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are only back together and not remarried. You can't stay together for your child because ultimately you are hurting that child. So many people don't seem to understand that children know exactly what is going on in the family. They can sense when there is no love or respect. Please think about this and maybe get some counseling before you make a wrong decision. Take care of yourself.
2006-10-02 02:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Huh? What is the question? Try again. :)
However, if you're actually divorced, you shouldn't get back together for the daughter alone. You're a married couple first, and if that doesn't work, then the family unit doesn't work, and the majority of the time the children pay the price for their parent's mistakes.
2006-10-02 02:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a very special person to put their feelings of hurt and trust behind them all for their child. I applaud you sir. I was once married to a cheater, I forgave the first time, the second time, I could not forgive but stayed anyway, the third time was the one in which I filed for divorce, luckily no children involved.
2006-10-02 02:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband did some thing similiar to me (yet he did not get the different lady p/g) we were collectively for 4 years everythng became into going great and he went homestead to circulate to his persons and that i stayed in the back of and he attached with a random previous extreme college chick and he claimed that they had a connection after basically some days, i became into devastated. speedy forward its been virtually 6 months considering the fact that all this surpassed off and my husband and that i stayed collectively and are working it out. We circulate to counseling and my husband says now months later he can see what a great mistake he made and what an a** he became into. He realizes now he didnt rather have a connection with that different lady he in simple terms had own probelms and used a one night stand to attempt and fasten issues. I wager your guy will comprehend in some months to a year that marrying that chick became right into a mistake and their relationship won't even make it so some distance as yours did. the biggest element so which you are able to gain is ITS not YOUR FAULT!! not something you probably did pushed him that some distance. you are able to hold your head extreme on the top of the day and say i'm a extra valuable individual than him and that i'm valuable and worth. in simple terms be the superb determine you would be on your daughter and attempt to maintain her father in her life no count how lots it hurts you, whilst your youngster is older and learns what rather surpassed off they're going to make thier very own desicion approximately their dad. yet do not injury it for them by potential of being mean and petty with your ex. hang in there and shop up the counseling it is going to help. come again accessible with your persons and lean on your loved ones they are able to help i understand mine helped me when I went by this.you're able to try this, you're solid. do not supply up and don't supply in. better of success!!
2016-10-15 10:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you go back for the sake of the child you are doing more harm then you realize. you don't love this woman nor does she love you. so loveless home. you don't respect her she sure has h*ll doesn't respect you or the family unit. lack of respect for family unit. she puts your child's life and possible future children lives at risk of so many s.t.d.s. what could you possibly bring to this home? You don't love her or respect her what are you teaching your daughter that's its OK to settle doesn't matter if you get beat but its for the children? look at the big picture be involved but don't move back into the family house...
2006-10-02 02:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling together. Communication is key to restoration.
She was searching for something she didn't get from you. She may have not realized what she was searching for. You need to find out the missing piece and provide.
2006-10-02 02:52:35 · answer #11 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋