Well hear it is two of my kids dad died last year!!I have toled the older child about his dad but the younger child has a harder time with things she is 6years so when should i tell her about hear dad????Please any suggestans!!!
2006-10-02 02:25:40 · 8 answers · asked by care 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Really should know a few things allsow she has never sene him befor so he was not an emenedt part of her lif allso she dus not handle things the way other kids her age do you should know she has spechill need's!!!
2006-10-02 02:36:00 · update #1
Just tell the truth, don't overprotect them.
2006-10-02 02:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Chri R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
death is a hard thing to deal with especially if it comes unprepared ! sit your child down and explain the meaning ,first then (gradually )implement the fact of how and when the death happened .also reassure the girl that everything is a thing of nature ,but please try not to traumatize her by saying she can expect it also !!
be kind and gentle with your word's ,it's a must also that she not be left alone when you do this -cause there's going to be a lot of questions popping into her head that you need to answer !
otherwise-i,think they will bother her and trouble's such as nightmares,and other behavioral problems may occur !! be patient and do this as quickly as possible ,i'm sure she knows dad's gone -but very confused !!
sorry-for-your-loss !!!!
2006-10-02 09:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by luke m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she doesn't know him, then wait until she's older. it would be different if the child knew him but since she doesn't then there is no need to put stress on a child that way. try to remember what it's like being 6 yrs old. would you want to know? i remember when i was 7 we moved away from the town we lived in...i was traumatized. imagine if it was a death i had to deal with.
2006-10-02 09:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she asks...it may be a while and believe me, kids will avoid asking unpleasant questions until they are ready to hear the answer. The older sibling has probably already talked to her about it. When the younger one is curious enough, she will ask. So relax Mom, she will let you know when she is ready.
2006-10-02 09:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by housemouse62451 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is the best policy. Do u believe in the resurrection hope? then it wont be difficult for you to explain. It is important for the child (and you) to understand that death has not taken them away PERMANENTLY(1Co15:26)! If u believe that God makes things sensible, then it will be easier for you to also help your child understand.....plz respond!
2006-10-02 09:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Thabi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her immediately ... she should know and she'll be upset if she finds out later that you kept it from her. Just explain it the best you can to her, if you have any religious beliefs you might want to explain it in those terms ... I think they make kids books about death that are supposed to help kids understand.
2006-10-02 09:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by Benjamin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you feel comfortable telling her. Wait til you are confidant that he is in a better place. And be positive- she will sense that from you.
2006-10-02 09:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now! Dying is natural and there are many good books that could help your children understand.
2006-10-02 09:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋