is this a phobia and what can i do to get over this? i am reluctant to have sex in case i fall pregnant although i want to be a family, and i am obsessed by this hatred of pregnancy.
2006-10-02 02:10:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You don't need to be scared. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, you will be so happy and all pregnant women have that glorious glow about themselves. It will be a great experience. I am a proud Mama of four and I used to be scared to death of being pregnant. It has gotten better every time :) ~ good luck and I'm sure you will agree with me after becoming pregnant.
2006-10-02 02:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Pretty Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have phobias to avoid things, plain and simple... They are like safety nets to keep us from appearing shallow, insensitive, freakish or odd.
If you were to just come out and say something like "I don't want to have children because I think I will get fat and I don't want to become less attractive in order to give life to a living being that is a physical manifestation of my union with the person I love."
Then people would think you shallow and un natural, selfish and narcissistic.
A "phobia" is just a more socially acceptable excuse for all of the above.
Same in many cases as mental illness and addictions being called Illnesses when in some cases they are attributed to brain chemicals and hiredetary, some others just use them as crutches because they are morally and spiritually inept. It is hard to tell the difference. Only the indivisual knows the truth in more cases than not. That's why mental illness is so hard to treat. It is often half medical reality and half the creative mind of a sociopath projecting illness to have their way.
Just be honest with yourself and deal with whatever real issues you're trying to avoid having. You are human and you are entitled to both your perfection and your imperfections. If you do not want children. It is after all your body to do with as you please. If your partner wants them and you don't, maybe you can use a serrogate or adopt?
and then their is the possibility that you entered into a marriage with a person you KNEW wanted children, knowing you didn't. What better way to cover your tracks then to call it a phobia and avoid taking responsability for your deception?
Lucky for you... only you know for sure. But I can assure you, people really do suspect such behavior. It is always more obvious than it is admittred. That is how relationships break down from the inside out.
2006-10-02 02:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my first pregnancy, so I know how you are feeling. In the beginning, I was always having anxiety attacks when I was around newborn babies or other pregnant women much farther along than myself. I attneded a few classes and learned that being pregnant is a wonderful thing and that children are a blessing to have. I stil have fears, yes, but I know that my spouse and I love each other very much and that we will get through it together. Calm down.....everything will be just fine. Always focus on the positive and positive things will come your way.
2006-10-02 02:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by ok2beme80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you're married or in a commited relationship, you can use birth control and condoms to ensure you're not going to get pregnant. Children are a big step, if you're truly ready for kids, you could adopt, or consider the fact that pregnancy (though it is not pleasant) is still easier than having a newborn baby that demands all of your attention. You should ask yourself WHY you're so afriad to be pregnant...you may find that you're just not ready for kids yet.
2006-10-02 02:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've were given some style of pressure linked with being pregnant; i ask your self if some thing has got here about in the previous that has extra this on (?). in case you truly do get bodily ill and may want to't stand the concept-about it, you would possibly want to favor to work out someone who focuses on pressure. a touch anxiety or concern is one challenge, yet what you're speaking about is going way previous that and it might want to intervene with your skill to be a figure alongside your significant different.
2016-12-04 03:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant is awesome! Feeling that baby move for the first time is great. Pretty much just eat like you did before, dont think well I am eating for 2 so then you eat double, not good, you triple in size after the baby is born. I would be pregnant anyday, its all the crap after its born that isnt the funnest!!
2006-10-02 02:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by pretzel772000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think many people LOOK FORWARD to the pains of pregnancy lol I know I don't! But if this fearis keeping you up at night and disturbing other aspects of your daily functioning, I'd seek professional help. Have you thought about adoption?
2006-10-02 02:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like ur not ready.
There is nothink 2 be scared of bein preg is wonderful and at the end u get a wonderful baby.
2006-10-02 02:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are that terrified, you either need to seek therapy (maybe something happened you need to work through first) or you just need to wait. Your body, mind, and heart all need to be ready for a baby. Without any of them being in sync you might be jumping ahead of yourself. Good luck!
2006-10-02 02:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by Slutlana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire a woman to bear ur child for u
2006-10-02 02:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by xapao 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋