it was fine till few days ago. now i met a girl on net, then in person too! we had sex for a week and it was marvelous. Now i dont feel like meeting my old g/f as i dont find her attractive enough. but some how i managed to distance my self fm her. but bigger shock was about to come. i found out that, my new g/f is getting a divorce and has a kid too. she says after getting divorce she ud like to marry me. but i m not ready to imagine my self marrying a divorcee with a kid. i have lost both the women in my life. i m depressed?
2006-10-02 02:08:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
About your first girlfriend, you should respect her even more for standing up for herself. Love is not about sex...it is a very small part of the relationship if you put all the other events of everyday human activities next to it...and you should feel ashamed for pushing her for sex and leaving her because of that! i'd say, what you reap is what you sow! if you sow sexual greed...lust you will reap...and you may have lots of sex in your new relationship, but that may be all you'll get...love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Now, ask yourself again, do you really love any of the mentioned girls or are you just looking for a casual relationship to satisfy your fleshly sexual desires? Beauty is skin-deep!
2006-10-02 02:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bummer. You lied to her and ended up alone. Sounds like there might be a lesson here. . .
If you want to make things right with the original gf, tell her the truth and deal with the consequences. If things are too far gone, pick up and move one, but only after you have examined yourself and have so me idea of what you really want in a relationship. Good luck on finding what you want.
2006-10-02 02:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by sm2f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your old fashioned girlfriend was right all along. Now she has rid herself of a cheater and hasn't squandered her virginity on you. Leave her alone. Come out of the closet as a cheater and find another out of the closet cheater to date. You can cheat on each other and not feel bad about it. Maybe join a swinger's club together.
2006-10-02 02:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first gf may just have been telling you that and after the "I do's" are said, you find out she wasn't a virgin after all. Tell the second gf that right now you just want a physical relationship. Her current husband will be in your life until the child turns 18. Is that what you want?
2006-10-02 02:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you . You should have never disrepected your girlfriend because she wanted to save her self for marriage. Guess you've learned that the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the street. You can't base true love on a sexual encounter.
2006-10-02 02:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by cwallflower32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes one can not see a diamond when it's staring them right in the face. You should have been happy with one that saved herself for marriage since its very rare now a days. Like they say live and learn. Can't say I feel sorry for you cause you made your own moves and now you have to live with them.
2006-10-02 02:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my man... people are not going to feel remorse for you over your actions. Rather they are going to be grateful that your first girlfriend (the virgin), found out about your true nature before your relationship went even further.
Sorry, but those are the breaks...
2006-10-02 02:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Serves you right, instead of respecting your gf for wanting to hold off till marrige... you turned around and betrayed her... good 4 u, u lost a good girl, you made your bed, now sleep in it....
2006-10-02 03:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to get back together with your original girlfriend? I can't really tell from your question ... if you do, you should talk to her and be honest and she might take you back. If not, there are a lot of girls out there. You'll find someone.
2006-10-02 02:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get back with your old girlfriend and wait because:
1. The bible says not to have sex outside of marrige
2. Girls usually take charge so listen to them and you'll have more fun
2006-10-02 02:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jesus Freak!!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋