Do alot of girls have fantasies about swinging?

Question

I thought it would be fun., but dont know how to ask my wife. Any suggestions, or stories?

Answer 1

This is a touchy subject since she may be all for it, but her initial reaction might be "Why? Aren't I enough for you?!"

For us it wasn't a thing we had to ask each other. We'd talked in the past like after neighbors went home after drinking at our place and the talk would turn kinda' raunchy. Kind of a "do you think ever...?" type of thing. So when the opportunity presented itself at a party one time and we were propositioned it turned into serious talk between us. A month later we had our first swinging experience and several years later we are still loving it, and loving each other.

We were both already on the same page, though. So there was no chance of someone's feelings getting hurt.

I think women think about it just like men, whether this is sharing their man with another woman or a MFM with her husband and another man is the question. 40% of men and women surveyed a year ago by Playboy magazine said that a threesome was their number one fantasy, it didn't say what the mix was for this threesome though. I assume it is FMF for men and MFM for women most of the time. About 20% of the people surveyed had a threesome at one time or another.

In another survey when couples were asked "who first brought up the idea of swinging", again, nearly 40% of couples responded "it was her idea." So no, it's not always the men that bring it up.

What I would do is read the page at the link provided below. There is allot of great information on this site about the Lifestyle. From there you can decide whether it's for you or not. For some, the fantasy is better left a fantasy.

Answer 2

My wife and I gave it some thought and discussion. We both came to the same feeling about it. fun idea and erotic, yes...exposing our relation to danger, yes also.

Even though the idea is attractive, the reality could kill your relationship. There are emotional damages that you may not have a true feel for. For myself and my wife, that alone kept us from doing it.

So yes, I am sure women think about swinging or multiple sex partners as a fantasy. They would be not truthful if they say otherwise. The key word is "fantasize", most women have sense enough to keep it a fantasy, and I suggest you keep it there also.

Answer 3

Be cool about it. Don't push the issue. She may not be ready for it. It takes a very strong relationship to swing. I told my wife about a fantasy I had and I found out she had the same sort of fantasies. We started out slow so as not to hurt any ones feelings. We have been swinging for about 4 years and we still keep penetration for each other. It has made us more open to each other. It does take alot of communication. Good luck and we'll see you on the playing field.

Those that don't know or are insecure about it will talk bad about it.

Answer 4

My husband and i have had a threesome, twice. It was quite sexual, especially the first time!

After the second time though i lfet that it is something i'd like to do again, but not in the near future. My husband respected that, we don't hide our feelings and respect each others wishes.

If you explore, take care and have fun, but remember hearts and minds are very complex. What you htink might not hurt can actually devestate you.

One of you may see it as cheating (not before hand, but maybe during or afterwards). Once bread becomes toast, it can never go back to being bread.

Enjoy!

Answer 5

In my personal opinion it's the guy that generally brings this question up. Some lady's don't mind, but others freak out, you could possibly try getting her to share some of her fantasies and see if they run along those lines, this can possibly open a line of communication between you. But if not, back off and forget it, try finding other ways to spice up your sex life. This can really tear up a relationship if there is any mistrust or jealousy. Tell me, could you handle seeing your wife with another man? think about it and be honest with yourself.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

We all have fantasies, but fantasies are better left in dream land, unless you want jealousy to completely ruin your marriage cause to tell you the truth, no matter what women tell you about swinging - NO woman wants to see her man touch another woman.

Answer 8

I suggest you don't do it. If she doesn't like the idea you could have caused yourself a problem. Not to mention all the jealousy that can happen.
What's wrong with finding other more healthy fun things to do? Personally I don't see how anyone can truly love someone and want to share them with someone else. I guess they don't care because they get to do someone else as well?

I would never want to see my BF with someone else.

Answer 9

If you think it will be fun, please think again. Swinging destroys any and all trust and respect that you both have for each other.

Answer 10

if you want to end your marriage, go for it