This is the second time I've caught him. Last time, we had a huge fight and he promised never to do it again. He hasn't cheated on me in real life but he cheats on cam. We have a child together and I don't want to lose him. Guys, is it possible to still love your girlfriend but expose yourself on cam to other women? I know he was just bored at the time.. But I'm wondering how he could do this to me, knowing it hurt me so bad last time. I'm furious. I wonder if I should get back at him or let it slide. I'd rather him cheat only on cam than cheat in real life but still, it's not right! I'm very hurt and confused. Please help.
2006-10-02 01:44:43 · 45 answers · asked by •√¡rgő• 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not married but you do have a child. I'm curious as to why the committment was never made. But on with my answer....
Document all his wrongdoings such as this.
Ditch the webcam. Get rid of messenger. Force him to give you all passwords to his online accounts. When he is not aware...delete all email accounts and emails you suspicious. "Block sender" for all those accounts. Be sure he doesn't have any girl's email address, messenger contact, or old emails- sent or received.
Get rid of his email and messenger accounts.
Get a stealth internet tracker. I don't know the details but there is either software you can install that he will never see or hardware thing you install on the back on the CPU. Go to CompUSA or someplace like that and ask the techies how to track. Then watch the sites he visits for a month. Let a whole month go before you say anything about his bad online visits. Then make a list of his month long history.
Ask him to go to counseling with you. Bring the history list with you to the counselor and confront him on it.
Sounds like he wants a cheap thrill. Somehow he has needs that are not met. Sit down and ask him what you can do to fulfill his desire.
2006-10-02 02:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
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2016-05-16 14:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart..
listen to what you are saying. He hasn't cheated on me in real life but he cheats on cam What is that about?He shouldn't be cheating at all..You have a child together..Is this the kind of father you want for your kid?
He has no respect for your feelings..I judt dealt with a similar issue like this with my ex boyfriend. He looked at naked women online and didn'th touch me..so I confronted him. Told him I didn't like it..he said it would stop and it didn't..so I left and I am with a man who respects me, loves me with all of his heart and would never even think of looking at another woman online..he's not interested.
I know it's hard..especially when you have a child, but you need to think if this is for you...sure it's webcam now..but who knows what's next..and you say he's bored? tell him to get aoff his lazy *** and help you or take you out..bored..what a d**k..sorry..I just know what you are feeling. I've been there and it sucks..
You are probably a beautiful woman and any man would be lucky to be with you..so do some thinking and maybe make a move or give him an ultimatum..its webcam or me..take your pick..You might be better off.
Sorry if this is harsh..good luck and keep your head high..You're a woman and deserve to e treated that way!
2006-10-02 01:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is working his way up to cheating in real life. First he looked, then he chatted, and now he's exposing himself on cam. You know the next step. As soon as he finds a taker he'll be out there. Good luck and may God bless you.
2006-10-02 01:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by connie_mspt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't worry about it. You closed the window after she claimed she was 16, good job. Then she switched her age back up to 22 (so what is she? 19? 16? 22?). Not to mention that the site required age verification, so you could claim that you were acting in good faith that everyone was an adult, and that she was breaking the rules of the room by being a minor, not you.
2016-03-18 03:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting back at him will not solve anything and could just do a bit more damage than any good. This is not something that should go tit for tat.
What you need to do is it him down and let him know how you feel. that you feel it is a form of cheating on you. Start off by stating the following " When you use your webcam and expose yourself to other women I feel " and then finish the sentence. I hope this helps
2006-10-02 01:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leaving him just now is not the answer. These days when the going gets tough the tough split. Listen, you have a kid together and that kid needs both a mother and a father. My advise to you is try to find out why he's doing this. If you see he's not open to this drag his to couples theray. But before leaving him and breaking up your family give it all you got. When you've done everything to try and save your marriage then consider leaving him. But just don't leave without trying. Your responsiblity to you kid are greater than your or your husband.
2006-10-02 01:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good sign. Be careful with him around your child. Cheating perioid is wrong. Open your eyes....weird people expose themselves. Online or in person is wrong. Sounds like a red flag to me. And it doesn't sound like he respected your feelings if he did it again. This is an addiction..he needs counseling and help. He won't stop...it is too much of a thrill or a "high" for him. Like a drug.
2006-10-02 02:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by lucy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to catch my ex all the time doing that. And he would always swear not to. And in the end, I became so insecure and paranoid, that I yanked the internet connection off the wall, and destroyed the camera. And the best thing I did, was leave.
No matter who you are, if your man is finding something out there somewhere, then it's because he's not getting it at home.
2006-10-02 01:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mystress 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the two of you could have fun and make money online if you organised it properly, but that probably isn't what your man wants to do. Instead, he prefers to get his own thrills.
I think it is possible to love your girlfriend but expose yourself on cam. You just need to understand his point of view, which is that you are his obligation. A chore. Those other women are his own little time out. A refreshment.
2006-10-02 02:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋