me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby since june (which i no isnt long) but i want a baby so much my dad told me about a month ago his new wife is pregnant (shes about 16 years younger than my dad) so im nt a silly school girl. and im really happy for them as they both didnt think they were able to have children but then my m8 told me she was pregnant 'an accident' which i know wasn't true but she is still smoking and can barely look after her first child let alone another but how do i deal with these horrible feelings of jealousy? please help im never normally so horrible
2006-10-02 01:25:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im 20 and been with my boyfriend 2 years have good job decent pay and we are able to support ourselves and a baby
2006-10-02 01:37:51 · update #1
i wish you wouldve stated how old you are but yes it is very hard to see others having babies when you want one of your own soooo bad especially when she doesnt take good care of herself or her other children, just remember that when you DO become a mother to be a better one than she is.
2006-10-02 01:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasoning is acceptable in a sense . I see alot of parents have kids that don't take care of them & then someone that would be great parents never have kids.I think you need to just try to handle this the best way you can , maybe you could try to help this new Dad's wife with these kids in a family concern way.As far as you having a baby just give it time & if it is meant to happen it will . I felt just like you once & I have 3 boys .It was hard cause i was pregnant 2 times before I had them & lost those early .God makes things happen in right time not our idea of the right time.
2006-10-02 08:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always a right time for everything. Just be patient and pray a lot....consider the idea of consulting a doctor and asked advise on what ways to undertake so you'll get pregnant...both you and your boyfriend should undergo physical check up to know if there's a reason for not getting pregnant...if nothing wrong then good and be happy because you'll have a baby soon....
2006-10-02 08:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact that you can become so focused about having a baby that it just doesn't happen......you would be better just carrying on with your life and leave it up to chance.....if after 6 months you are still not pregnant go and see a doctor.
I know this will be hard for you but it's not everyone else's fault don't take it out on the people you love....you'll need them in the long run, my love.....it will happen for you eventually..
But don't let it be the only thing in your life girl......
2006-10-02 08:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to bring a child into this world on those terms. Also, you're not even married. How can you commit to raising a child if you're not ready to commit to a marriage yet. You need to stop and think about this before you make a horrible mistake. Doesn't sound like you're ready or even mature enough to do this yet. Wait.
2006-10-02 08:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to relax your mind and put trying to the back for the time being and let it happen naturally, I think if you feel the way that you do it sometimes has the reverse affect, so like I say just relax and enjoy life and sex too, also be pleased for others
2006-10-02 08:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by SADGIT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont look at it that way, just a word from me good things come to those who wait, you will fall pregnant when its your time to and when you do it will be the most fantastic experience you will go through, be patient and your time will come my sister in law has been trying for a baby for 15 years and 3 weeks ago she had some brilliant news she is now pregnant it might take time but believe me you will appreciate it more. good luck and dont worry your time will come xx
2006-10-02 08:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by private 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to focus on yourself and getting pregnant instead of focusing on others. So jsut go out and enjoy the sex with your boyfriend
2006-10-02 08:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying and frustration will not help your chances of conceiving, you have to be happy for them, get on with your life and just enjoy having sex...it will happen you just have to be patient...good luck...oh and also make sure you have lots of sex when your ovulating!
2006-10-02 08:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be happy for them but concentrate on yourself - you've really not been trying for that long so just relax and enjoy the process!!
2006-10-02 08:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by william h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋