a guy i like for sure has been hurt many times, and i want him to see that i love him and im willing to treat him in a very special how do i let him see that im a the perfect gal for him. because i trully love the guy.
2006-10-02 01:14:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk and more talk. Action and more action. He needs to know not all women are the same...Sure, be gentle with him, but also be assertive....make him understand that you are not the women who hurt him. Hurt is a terrible thing for sure, but I get quite angry at a man treating me the same as the women who hurt him. I am a totally different person....and he needs to know that. If he has so much baggage, if he is so hurt by what previous women have done to him, then you will find your life with him miserable and will get more miserable every day you are together...He will never trust you...he will always think you will do the same to him that the other women/woman has done to him. You need to be firm and assertive and make him understand the grand scheme of things. He needs to understand in no uncertain terms that you are an individual and you are offended that he thinks you are the same as the others. You can feed his self pity, or you can make him realise there is life beyond hurt. The more you coddle him, the worse it will get. Stand your ground...show him you are a woman to be reckoned with...show him you are different to everyone else he has ever met. Show him you have principals and morals.....tell him to stop categorising you, and to see you as the person you are and who you project yourself to be. Tell him, you do not play games with peoples emotions and he either has to accept you love him, or else let you go, simply because you dont like being categorised into something he has manufactured becuase of his previous experience/s. You are not the person who hurt him...he needs to understand that.
2006-10-02 01:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should go ahead and tell him but be like i know u had rough realtionships but i want u to know that i would never dis u like some of ur gf's have and if u cant tell him in face wright a note to him and tell him u wanna go out with him but dont let your love for him stay inside u forever we were ment to love someone and we gotta tell that person we do love them and tell them how we feel about them if his answer i no say ok i'll understand your still hurting but when the time is ready can u wait for me! good luck!
2006-10-02 08:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by courtcourt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By being honest with him and showing him that you will stick by him throughout anything. It will take time because he has lost trust through other relationships. If you truly want to be with him you will have to be patient and the trust will grow.
I have been there - I know.
2006-10-02 08:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to TRUST you......and let HIM fall in love with you. He will be standoffish for a while , I imagine. Be his friend and hang out and have fun with him. Don't pressure him for sure. That may run him off.
2006-10-02 08:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by lucy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make friendship with him, treat him special, make him realise that he special and you are there for him. let expresion, feelings, treatment, eyes speaks rather than words and promises.
2006-10-02 08:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by crazychori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be gentle witjh him
2006-10-02 08:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋