I live in Australia and he lives in India. We've both seen each other on webcam & chatted in Messenger a lot & some times on the phone. What worries me though is that he's already talking of marrying me when we haven't even met in person yet, & we've only known each other for about a couple of months. He says he will come to Australia within 7 months to meet me. He also refers to my parents as his Mum & Dad as well. He tells me I'm his everything in life & without me he is nothing. If what he says is true, he also has a very good job & is doing quite well financially. I'm concerned as to how he can already say he loves me & wants to marry me when we haven't even met in person yet. Is it possible some times that some people can know very quickly who they want to be with in life? I'm worried that he may not genuinely love me and is just hoping to gain entry into Australia and become an Australian citizen. If he is genuine about his feelings towards me, how will I know?
2006-10-02 01:12:30 · 25 answers · asked by Jane F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi Jane I am sorry to be racist, however I think the guy is just after a visa. I am also Australian and I have a lot of Indian friends. They will say anything to get you to fall for them, but once you do it will be the worst day of your life. Aussie women are very carefree and fun loving, however Indian men like their women to be a bit more submissive, once he has you where he wants you (married) he will either make life hell for you or leave you for an Indian woman. (Most Indian parents want their sons to marry a nice Indian girl).
I don't think you will ever know his true feelings, but think about it logically and you will see his true motives.
If you are looking for marriage, I know a lot of good guys who are looking for nice women and no visas!
2006-10-02 01:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you are making a big mistake here. You CAN NOT know a person via the Internet. A lot of people are a totally different person on here then in real life. I know that he may seem charming but beware. Make no promises and under no circumstances go running off into the unknown. If you really think that this man is for you take it slow. Meet him not once but several times before you make a decision and make sure the first time you meet him it is in the presence of others. A restaurant is a good idea. Good luck with this but remember BEWARE.
2006-10-02 01:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to build a trust with anybody, we can give our trust but it isn't realistically there until time has shown you they can be trusted.
I always like to have belief in people, but the truth is I have had many I seriously thought I could trust, I couldn't. I knew some for a very long time too so if 'so called friends' and even family can wear a fantastic mask to fool and deceive, then think about the stranger.
You think you know him, because he wants you to believe him. You want to believe him because we want to believe but being dead honest with you now, you should never take anybodys word over the internet and fill yourself with hope and belief until they've shown you they are genuine. It's impossible to do that without the face to face meeting, without time to get to know each other.
I won't even go into him proposing to you because how can you know each other truly without meeting?
It does happen, people fall in love and marry after meeting on the internet so don't lose faith-be cautious, and keep your guards up without falling too heavily until know this person other than what they want you to know and believe about them has proved to you they are who they say they are.
Good luck and God Bless xxx
2006-10-02 01:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by WW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have left my country to live with someone i met on the net...It can really work !! but we met a few times before WE decided i would move. If you meet him at yours be very carefull to the questions that seem important for him. You may be right about the nationality. BTW we decided to live together after knowing each other on webcam for over.......18 months !!! Anyway i wish you all the best
2006-10-02 01:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by talkingformydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not trust that type of person. Marriage is a life long commitment that cannot be based on internet friendships. People are very different in person than they are over the net and most of the time they lie. I would not be in a rush to settle dpwn with this person, and so fast! There is a possibility he would use you to setlle in australia, but basically I think you need to take time to know him.
2006-10-02 01:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by fareen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that I would trust someone who barely knows you, and you barely know who is already telling you that they are in love with you. It seems very suspicious to me.
If I were in your shoes I would sever the relationship. He very well may be trying to gain citizenship into Australia, or maybe he is just a weirdo playing with your feelings, or worse still he could be a man trying to gain your trust and rape you. It is a very scary world.
All you can do is use your own common sense and judgment, but if you were sure you wouldn't be asking complete strangers for advice, would you?
2006-10-02 01:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by randella_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is risky. My nephew met a girl in China on the internet. Chatted for months, then he takes a trip over there. Her father insisted on this ceremony and before he knew what happened, he was married to her. After several visits he found out that she was communicating with other guys in the US trying to get out of China. Well after thousand of dollars later he divorced her. He then met his current wife on line, she was from the Phillipines. They are happily married have one child and one on the way.
If he does come to visit, just take your time. Don't let him rush you into anything. Always remember if your gut feelings are right, don't do it. Good Luck! hugs
2006-10-02 01:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even to consider marrying some guy you've seen on a web cam is dumb, Dumb, DUMB. Meet and see what happens down the road.. This guy could be Mr. Death from Delhi! And he must not be very smart either to want to marry a women he hasn't met. You ought to find out about the religions involved, too!
2006-10-02 01:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is way hard to trust a man and hes feeling even if you know him in person and been going out for several months..
Man these days lie and lie...
I wouldn't..
I think he wants to get the Australian citizenship and a different country to live in.
and where is the rush? like the song only fools rush in!
Becareful..you are way smart fall, give yourself some time and met different guys and come on..you are worth it...you need presence...
2006-10-02 01:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy raises lots of red flags for me. Even if he isn't just trying to gain admission into Australia (and if you brought it up there is probably a good chance that this is happening) the guy obviously has some issues if he is moving this fast without having met you. Calling your parents Mom and Dad? Sheesh! I would call things to a hault before the guy lands on your doorstep and you can't get rid of him.
2006-10-02 01:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by Justme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋