Theres this guy who i met off the internet (myspace,com) and i fancy him so bad !! But. Hes 8 years older than me ! I have spoken 2 him about it and he thinks im crazy. I have also spoken to my best friend about it but we had a fall out over it. Its causing me so much trouble. I cant take him off my mind ! But i cant just forget about him.
2006-10-02 00:40:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depending on your age if you are of a legal age then its fine,, but for god sake play it cool, don't throw yourself at him that will make him run a mile,, also you need to pay attention to the safety aspect of meeting a complete stranger, this can be dangerous make sure people know where your going at all times this guy could be a serial killer or a sex offender for all you know...
also i think your friend is probably thinking of your safety as well....
2006-10-02 01:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i assume that you have met the guy already in person. If you have met him you should know what kind of person he is and if u think he has the qualities, then age is not a problem. Now if u have never met that guy, then I will suggest you to be patient. Meeting someone on the internet is not always successful. Reason:If i put my photo (a nice 1) and say good things abt me and that I have good hobbies and interests, anyone wud hav a cruch on me. What I am saying here is that, there is a possibility that all information is not true. The only thing I would say is to know that guy better > decide if he is really the one for u > make ur decision and trust me; 8 yrs difference is no big deal!! Also, talk to ur friend and explain to her/him that you will take time understanding that guy before making any step. I am sure your friend will understand. Keep your friendship. Apologies if u have to and explain yourself and also listen to what he/she has to say also. Just be calm when this happens. Trust me, love is really blind, so take some time and decide properly with an open mind.
2006-10-02 01:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by Adz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nobody business what you do and how you feel about it. If your best friend doesn't like it then that's her problem. You live your life for you and do what you want. I can see that your best friend is only looking out for you, but there runs a risk with meeting a guy everyday on the street. There are plenty of women that have been killed by their boyfriends or husbands and they never met them over the internet. Where as a lot of people have met over the internet and have been married and so forth and have never been abused or killed. The age factor here is not a big deal either. I mean 8 years older is really nothing to be getting bent out of shape about. Age doesn't matter as long as your both adults. Why miss out on a great guy because he's 8 years older than you???? You need to do what you want to do and stop stressing yourself over this. Your friend has her own life and you have yours. In the end your the one that has to be happy.
2006-10-02 00:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i suppose it all depends on whether or not it is legal!!! That is the main thing - sometimes age differences can make a huge difference and sometimes none at all - eg: my sister's partner is 13 years older than her - makes no difference - that have a kid together and everything. then there is me - I am 4 years older than my fiancee and it had never made a difference with us, but then there is my friend, there is an 21 year age gap between her and her man, and her parents and most of her friends won't accept it, she stuck with the guy, but as a result her family and most of her friends have totally drifted out of her life! Totally depends on the situation, and of course, as i initially mentioned - whether or not the relationship would be legal!
2006-10-02 00:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. If you are 16 and he is 24, that's a big problem. But, if you are 56 and he is 64, then no big deal. Got my point? Another thing is that you BOTH have to think it's ok. If he thinks you are too young, it will never work out. You should see him in reality before deciding to be with him. Good luck!
2006-10-02 00:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok seriously why does 8yrs make a difference unless your under 16? Ive just come out of a relationship with a guy who is almost 20yrs older than me, we split up cos he doesnt want kids but apart from that he's an amazing man! I still love him but I cant not have kids! If he's so nice just give it a go hun!
2006-10-02 01:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by hypercb1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends were the 8 years are....is he 42 and you 34, or is he 24 and you are 16. 8 years sometimes does make a diffference depending on the ages...so its hard to say.
2006-10-02 00:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does 8 years make much of a difference? If you like him then go for it!!!!! If it is meant to be it will be, if not ya gotta move on! Good luck and be careful who you meet of the internet!!!!
2006-10-02 00:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by feehilan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're crazy. Forget him, say sorry to your friend, and get on with life in the real world, not some cyberspace romantic novel.
2006-10-02 02:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by Phlodgeybodge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age doesnt really matter if you both feel the same. obviously if you are still a young teenager, stay away.
2006-10-02 00:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋