b4 my he went on holiday i told him i didnt want to be with him, he comes bk and gives me a very expensive white gold ring with dimonds and asked me 2 stay with him. he wont take it bk. i live with him im moving out in 2weeks. what shal i do. only 17! its not an engaement ring
2006-10-02 00:23:02 · 34 answers · asked by whitters 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Keep the ring! He gave it to you, he knows where you stand with things, and he wants you to have it. Maybe you or he feels there is some type of guilt bond to the ring - I feel that a gift is a gift and the ring belongs to you now. If you aren't comfortable with it then mail it to him later. If you feel it was a last ditch piece of bribery then you have more than earned it -- wear it and enjoy it, along with any good memories you shared. You are way too young to have to be burdened with pity, guilt, or any other negative emotions about your life choices. You need time to grow, choose, experiment, experience and just plain enjoy your life. Don't let anyone get you down.
2006-10-02 00:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Justin W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your head held high and leave the ring on the table - this way you owe him nothing and he has no tie to you. If you take the ring there will always be a link and you will never have closure and be able to move on with the next chapter of your life.
If he makes you take it, post it to him (don't go running and see him, or he is getting what he wants and still controls you) and perhaps put a note in with it suggesting he gives it to charity for their fund raising. That way his good deed will live on and something positive will come from the breakup.
Best of luck with your new life - you go girl!
2006-10-02 00:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say keep it, after all it was a gift. I think though in this case he gave it to you hoping it would mend things and you guys would stay together.
I think your best option is leave the ring behind someplace where he will find it. If you keep the ring then he will think that your still holding on and this will give him hopes that you still love him.
If he brings you the ring after your moved out insist that you don't want it. Tell him if he keeps on insisting that you keep the ring you will only give the ring away to someone else.
2006-10-02 00:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son received a rather expensive bobble from a girl at school. I made him give it back...he agreed it was the right thing to do since the girl was 'buying' for his love. He told her that he hadnt earned the ring because he didnt love her back. Give him the ring back anyway. If you dont love him, tell him you did not earn it and he should know not to give such gifts without the person deserving it for the intention it was given.
2006-10-02 00:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer the ring back and get out babe. You have your life in front of you but try to stay friends if possible. Go out and enjoy life to the full as before you know it you will have kids and your life goes on hold. Whatever you do never wake up and think what if?
2006-10-02 09:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he knows with no doubt that you and he are not going to be togther, and tell him how flattered you are that he gave you such a ring, BUT, you can't, in good conscience, keep it, and offer it back to him.
At that point he can accept it, or try and twist tour arm to keep it.
If he refuses to take it back, take it home, put it in a safe place, and perhaps one day, when he realizes you are actually gone, he may want the ring back. If he does, you can retrieve it easily and then return it to him.
Good luck to you. :)
2006-10-02 00:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it back to him. If he doesnt take it give it to one of his friends or family members. You don't want any ties, trust me. MOVE out asap. I was also 17 when I fell for my first love. 9 years later I finally realized I should have left him at 18 instead of 26. You're lucky that you're strong enough to do it at such a young age.
Good luck,
keep smiling.
2006-10-02 00:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by sashaseguin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you move out, leave the ring behind, maybe with a note saying that you wouldn't feel right about keeping it.
2006-10-02 00:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets face it, he gave you the ring hoping you would change your mind. You didn't. He has asked you to keep the ring still hoping you won;t move out. Maybe he'll change his mind when you really do move out. Whatever, you should make sure he has it back.
2006-10-02 00:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by diana - b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you move out just leave the ring behind, but if he really still wants you to have it, keep it.
2006-10-02 00:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋