have been married for over three years, the relationship is more like a brother / sister, no physical relationship, when i ask about possible counsuling, just get silence or subject changes, she sleeps in serperate room, has seperate checking, contributes nothing to joint checking account, just feel like i'm being used, dont know how to approach her for real conversation. any ideas ??
2006-10-01 23:59:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have to support your feelings tell her please for your sake just be open and honest are you afaird of hearing the truth
2006-10-02 00:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by lost one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If no children are involved, get out. Life is to short to have a wife that is like a roommate.
How do you start the beginning of the end? I think it has all ready begun. She is sleeping in another room, has separate money and doesn't contribute. What more signs do you need?
As far as the physical relationship goes, "If she isn't getting it from you, she is getting it from someone else."
Protect yourself, make plans for the possible split. Make sure she doesn't have info on you that might aid in her side of the divorce, and be prepared financially. Good Luck
2006-10-02 00:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Average Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard situation.
From personal experience....if the partner will not acknowledge that there is a problem...you can not fix it.
Are you sure there is not another partner?
Are there health problems?
There are a number of reasons for this situation. I do admire the fact that you still seem willing to try. I know that living with someone and still feeling single is the most awful feeling in the world. You might want to come straight out and ask your partner if they want a divorce. It may be that they do not know how to approach it. If so, you are better off finding out right now.
I hope you get this worked out and can go on with your life.
Good luck!
2006-10-02 00:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by desperately seeking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad when you wanted a partner and got a roommate. It's just not possible to communicate with some people. To START THE BEGINNING OF THE END you first have to make the decision to end the marriage. Once you're firm with that, you can move on and have a chance to find someone who shares your idea of a spouse should be. I wish you the best.
2006-10-02 00:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't every forget, you only have one life, if you spend your life unhappy you can never go back to change it. Just tell her to day, "we have a problem and we need to talk know", you have to tell her what you want or don't want, maybe write all the things down you want to tell and sit down with her and let her know that this is not a normal relationship anymore and things need to change. Every day is a lost day, so do it as soon as possible, it is up to you, but there is nothing you could lose.
2006-10-02 00:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by mungi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you have already started the beginning of the end. Now you need to do something! you should tell her that if she can not talk with you and work through this, you are leaving. This is not a healthy invironment for ether of you.
If she does not respond, leave and she will ether change her mind or not. If not, it would have happened this way eventually anyway.
Good luck!!!!!
2006-10-02 01:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to both sit down and figure what went wrong in your marriage, talk to her and find out where you stand in the relationship. Maybe she has been seeing someone else..If she don't agree to seek a marriage counsiler then maybe you should just move on.. Life is to short and you deserve to be happy.. If the marriage is over then it will be hard for a while emotionally but you will get over it in time. You will meet someone that will love and appreciate you... GOOD LUCK..
2006-10-02 00:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Walk in and say " we need to talk." If you cannot do that you are correct, you do not have a marriage. Explain that you cannot continue in this charade. There need to be some serious changes for the better and NOW. Your patience is exhausted and its time to improve or separate. Wait for the answer and if there is none you know the answer. Whose house are you in? if it was yours she needs to go.
2006-10-02 00:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep some dignity, separation is in order. This does not sound like a marriage but more like a relationship of convenience. Take a stand and take care of yourself.
2006-10-02 00:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Val 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to her and tell her youd like to talk about things, if she dosnt want to talk or listen, then sorry sounds like she lost intrust and could care less, if thats the case your better off leaving, See if she"d go out on a date, kind of make it like you just started darting, then if no intrust leave,dont like people breaking up but no reason to stay in that kind of relationship
2006-10-02 00:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing one time. It turned out she was cheating. I did some investigating, found out and divorced her.
Believe me when I tell you, she has lost all interest in you. It may be painful, but you need to find out what's going on. If you stick your head in the sand and pretend every things OK. It will be more painful later. Good luck.
2006-10-02 00:07:31 · answer #11 · answered by Cal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋