would you get put off a women who has kids from other relationships
2006-10-01 23:35:57 · 26 answers · asked by flowerpot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm a mother with 5 children by 4 different men. i have never had a problem finding a man or finding a man to settle down with, in fact i'm in a relationship which i've been in for the past 5 years.
i feel many men are not bothered unless ur not caring for yiour kids properly.
2006-10-01 23:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by kaingirls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose alto of guys would be put off, because they are looking for a fun care free relationship with a girl. But most men won't and that is a real man I mean, and yes he will encounter spoil kids, my son is spoiled rotten, but if he can't deal with you spoiled kind how can he deal with his own spoiled kid when or if you both decide to have.
what I mean to say is simply, alot of men will be put off but the real ones won't.
And as a woman having kinds for every guy you are in a relationship with is a bad idea.
They should give you what you want before you give them. Ladies unfortunately you are allowed one lapse of judgement in this area, don't be taken a second time. Men aren't worth the hassle.
2006-10-02 04:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Solitary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think I would not be put off, then I had a relationship with a woman who had a little girl. We never had the time to do anything together as she had to keep going home to the child and it annoyed me.
I understand her commitment to her child, but I would be looking for a woman without kids in future. I want someone that would be there for me. I don't want to be second best like I was with that woman.
2006-10-01 23:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a single mum of one boy whose 12. I dont have any probs meeting men. Just be a bit choosey, dont rush in on anything, let the man do the chasing and always be honest about things. Dont introduce the kids until you are sure you have something good going on. If the man is mature enough he'll have no probs with kids in the equation, if he does have a prob then he's not worth the bother.
2006-10-02 00:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me' It depends on how many relationships and how many daddy's. If she has been married and divorced with a couple of kids that's OK. But never married with 3 or more kids by different daddy's' She is a easy lay until something better comes along. I hope you wanted the truth.
2006-10-01 23:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i wasn't put off in the past..nowdays, most of the women that I meet will have grown up or teenage kids from previous relationships
2006-10-01 23:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Vinni and beer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My relationship consists of me and daughter, partner and son so this one works both ways, the partners son does not live with us and my daughter goes to her fathers every other weekend. The difficulty arises from his son being bought up differently to how i bring my daughter, then you get the issues of how to deal with behaviour. being in the situation i am in now, i would not again choose a relationship wherein there was another child involved. The son has no respect for me, even though I'm the one who arranges the weekends out and presents. Then again it is different for everyone. I wish you luck.
2006-10-01 23:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do not like to date women who have children from every relationship. It is one thing to date women who have children from their last MARRIAGE. But from relationships? That tells a man she is easy, has no respect for herself or her children, no common sense, and lastly, she has children to get child support from every man she sleeps with. Dating women who have children from many relationships just let's a guy know she is easy and will put out.
2006-10-01 23:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with one now. It is way more complicated than I anticipated. I don't think it worth the effort. I have no say. The kid is spoiled. And the mother uses it as a crutch everytime we have an argument. Lesson Learned. Unless it's my kid, never again!
2006-10-01 23:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by SPUR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well put it this way i was pregnant with my first child at 7 mths pregnant i met my husband and we`ve been together ever since we got married in 2003 but been together since 1997 so i dont think it would put men off my daughter doesnt know hes not her dad as her real dad has never bothered with her,which i am dredding the day i have to tell her,my husband even took my name so he would have the same name as her so she wouldnt be confused into why he had a different surname, all his family have been great they love her to pieces i now have 2 boys with him as well and he loves them all equally.
2006-10-01 23:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by pinkdragon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋