I was together with this woman for 8.5 years,lived together for 8 years and married for 5.5 years.We are now separated for almost 2 years.But I cant let go of her.We have a son of almost 4 years.After we separated,I moved away to another country but I used to come at least once in a month to visit my kid.During this period,I found out that I still love this woman.I dicussed this with her but she didn't want me back.
After 11 months living away,I moved back to the country thinking maybe I can win her heart back.But I came back to find out that she is already seeing another man.(But we are still officially married).Now,the divorce process will commence in about 3 months time and it is going to last for about another 3 months more.I realised that once the divorce process starts, I do like to more on with my life also.But my biggest is how to leave my child behind with this woman living with another man.After the divorce,I dont like seeing more of this woman.How do I cope with this?
2006-10-01 23:12:20 · 21 answers · asked by devout_kindhonest 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you really loved her, Why run? Go fight for her, Do everything just to win her hearth back. If she will be marrying another man, we'll it is the time to decide, but for now it's too early for this question. Go! find a way. Do everything, I mean Everything....
2006-10-02 00:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by richbin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/9Ppvf
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 12:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Partan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a little scared and confused. You can not make your wife do something she doesn't want to do. She has moved on now and you have to as well. It sounds as though you and your wife have a civil relationship now which is the most important thing for everyone but especially for your boy who probably wonders what is going on especially when his father comes in and out of his life (no offence!). Kids need consistency and security so if you are going to stay in this country, stay!Time for a cliche but it's true, time is a great healer. It will get better and you will move on. Be strong for you and your boy. Good luck and here's to the future. x
2006-10-01 23:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by TashaLou1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you love someone you have to let them go...if they come back they'll be yours forever. And as far as your son goes put a stipulation in the divorce decree that no person of the opposite sex will be allowed to spend the night at either of your houses unless you remarry. It may be hard to see your wife while seeing your son but right now he is the most important person in this situation. And how you both deal with each other will effect him. So just try to be on friendly terms no matter what may happen in the future.
2006-10-02 00:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You NEVER leave your child behind. If you do you really are not a man. This is where you need to communicate with the EX. You never did say who moved out or why but I'm getting the feeling you screwed up. The grass really is brown on that side of the fence isn't it?
2006-10-01 23:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to grow up and face facts. Marriage is a thing that is until death do you part. You both chose to divorce. Get over it and move on, she don't want you back anyway, she moved on. Too bad for the child, but children suffer the consequences of the father.You made your mistake and looks like there's no taking it back. Til death do you part in my book. After that, it's a new life morally and legally in my book.....Your beliefs may hinge on a different point of view but you asked..........
2006-10-01 23:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/2hOwa
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-22 09:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some legal advice with a solicitor that specialises in relationships and family issues. The law in this area sucks for guys, but it is worth fighting for your son to live with you. After all, you are his father, and this other man isn't. The last thing that your son needs is to see a whole host of different men walking in and out of his life. Fight for your rights, and join fathers4justice!
2006-10-01 23:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there: Good morning Mr. Cry baby. Please have a great day. Your soon to be ex wife has found a new life and is now on her way happy as a lark. She really does not care what happens to you. You want to get over her? Get control of your emotion and find new friends, new hobbies, new everything and move on with your life.
2006-10-01 23:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would give up being in your son's life because your ex has moved on with hers?? You are selfish. That child needs you. Stop only thinking of your self and what you want. It is time you stepped up and be a dad to that child. good luck
2006-10-01 23:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋