im a 17 year old GIRL and my friend is gay but as of late me has been hitting on me non stop and i have even told him to stop because it makes me feel uncomfortable but he keeps doing it! all of my friend think he is in love with me or he at least likes me but i dont know i mean i would love him no matter what he is my bestfriend. even his own family thinks he is in love with me............ i dont really believe it but i was wondering what ur oppion is
2006-10-01 21:46:41 · 10 answers · asked by funny in a tragic way 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ok i dont think i turned a gay man straight just so u know look at my profile im not real looker........
2006-10-01 22:09:02 · update #1
Gay, bi, straight, they're all just stupid labels. We fall for who we fall for. So it's perfectly possible that your friend likes you.
2006-10-01 21:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dirty_Idea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think at 17 he probably hasn't had enough experience with either gender to define his preferences.
However that isn't your problem. Look at this from a different point of view. Take out the "gay" factor. You've got a guy hitting on you that you are not interested in. Gay or straight, tell him to knock it off, no means no. Distance yourself from him if you have to, there is no reason for you to feel uncomfortable around someone and accept his advances just because he's "gay" and you don't see him as a threat.
2006-10-02 02:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that this guy was bisexual or heterosexual all along but didn't realise it. You hear of "heterosexual" guys suddenly discovering that they are bisexual or homosexual, so why not the other way round? Whether its due to change or self-discovery is unclear, as psychologists are divided about the possibility of one changing their sexual orientation.
I was "gay" up until the age of 16, and then I fell in love with a 17 year old girl. This didn't confuse me at the time, since I felt my same sex attraction was a "phase". Since then, I've had various same sex and opposite sex attractions. I am now aged 30.
Recently, I feel as though I'm shifting away from my same sex attraction, and feeling stronger desires towards the opposite sex. At present, I feel as though I shifted from a Kinsey 6 (exclusively homosexual) to a Kinsey 1 or 2 (which means predominantly heterosexual but "more than incidentally", or "occasionally" homosexual). Whether I'm changing, or am just discovering my true self, remains inconclusive.
2006-10-02 02:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but at your age, he may not have been totally gay in the first place, just thought he was. Or he may be after you right now because he's beginning to feel the pressure of being gay and wants to try not to be. If you like him, give him a chance, if you don't feel that way about him, tell him so. You're both too young to make decisions about your sexuality that limit yourselves for life.
2006-10-02 01:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the Ancient Greeks had the right idea- god i love reading up about them. Listen it is normal to have feelings for people of same sex or opposite sex. although i love sleeping with women, i have, a very long time ago had a couple of relationships with men...to explore my sexuality. he may be doing the same thing. dont hate on him, he needs you more than ever now...goodluck
Ps. you are the envy of many girls...you've turned a gay guy straight. lol
2006-10-01 22:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sexual identity isn't fluid. Gay men like men not girls that doesn't change, it is a facet of their existance. Odds are your friend is Bisexual, most people who identify as homosexual are. In reallity only a very tiny portion of the human species doesn't have lingerring sexual interrest outisde of their designated sexuality. It's also possible he's just taking a try at being straight. Be nice to him. You'd want him to be kind if you were in his position.
2006-10-01 22:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by W0LF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's more like bi to gay... not the other way around... but hey, people change. maybe he wasnt gay after all.
2006-10-01 21:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by lnfrared Loaf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most certainly, it is a more natural progression than hetero to bi or hetero to gay
2006-10-01 21:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is wrong. Anyway, he likes you & probably fantasises about you being a lesbian. Maybe he watches too much lesbian porn. Explain to him that you are not a sex toy & if he doesnt stop, you will break up your friendship with him.
2006-10-01 21:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i dont understand why would he love u if he was a F.A.G ?
i dont beleive in being gay but that guy is stupid he got to make up his mind
anyways i dont really get it
feel free to send me a msg or whatever
lol
players_only54@yahoo.com
take care
bye
2006-10-01 21:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋