i dont know if i want to stop the divorce...
i am afraid that he will cheat on me again...
2006-10-01 21:29:24 · 6 answers · asked by capricorn girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try to give him another chance..maybe he'll make it better this time..remember, in the bible (correct me if iam wrong) you can forgive your neighbor seventy seven times..but since there is only a little possibility to forgive someone for 77 times, y not give him 2 chances..tell him that if he repeats it again and he extended to your limitations, you'll never forgive anymore and you'll just move on without him..
2006-10-01 21:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by ladyleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can put off the divorce.. and give him the chance to try and prove to you that he's seen the light from afar.. and let him know, during such time if he slips even alittle bit, if u catch him alone in any type of situation with a woman, talking to a woman on the net, talking on the phone.. ect.. that the divorce is back on, he has one last ditch effort to prove to u that u are all he wants and that he's willing to "FORSAKE" all others for you.. but do this from afar, dont just go running back to him, make him "court" u again.. and try to start over fresh again.. and u'll never know for sure cause no one can see into the future, so it would be a leap of faith, the same leap u took when u married him, or are with anyone.. no one knows what the future holds.. but u can see if its worth trying to get him to prove to u either way, if he fails.. then u know he'd more then likely cheat , and u push on with ur divorce, but if say u give him a 6 month trial.. and after 6 months he's passed with flying colors.. then u have the choice if its worth that leap of faith or not.. putting ur divorce on hold doesnt mean u cant still go through with it if u decide to..
The ball is in ur court, u make the rules.. and if he loves u , he goes by the rules since he's now on the begging end, if he doesnt want to go by the rules..then u also have ur answer, cause someone thats really sorry, thats willing to do anything to get the one they love back, will do anything to get them back..
2006-10-02 05:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Splitting up or divorce isn't always the best solution....it could be an option....your marriage vow doesn't end when a problem rages....but infidelity could be a ground for divorce....but think about it as the last option. And aside from the divorce there is still another way around...it is to win you trust back again...that's the issue there. Again marriage is a decision you have made....and it is also your ultimate decision if you want to work it out. Talk it over....and lay all your cards...then leave everything to him.
2006-10-02 05:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by maic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to earn your trust back. and he has to want to. if he doesnt care, you have to leave him. if he does, give him a chance. but make sure that he does everything he can to make you trust him again. my boyfriend constantly shows me everyday that what he did was a mistake and he proves to me that he's not cheating. if he loves you, he will do this for you and he'll understand that it's what you need to move on. good luck!
2006-10-02 04:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheat always a cheat. every time you get that warm fuzzy feeling, think about that knot you had when you found out he was kissing and making love to someone while you were trusting him.
2006-10-02 04:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by Aunt Mair á?¦ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, if you have to ask the answer is no
2006-10-02 05:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by blue_eyed_southernman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋