why cant i eat or sleep and my belly burns..so much why do i call him..and beg him?why cant i let go?my mond is boggled and cannotstop thinking of him imiss him,if i stop calling will he call me?
2006-10-01 21:17:43 · 21 answers · asked by cbutterflyc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you keep hurting like this cause you wont let go...you have to let go in oder to start the healing process...cause the more you call...the more he's going to pull away and the harder it's going to be for you to move on...i am going to be blunt with you...he does not want you and you have to accept that...and sometimes we have to be told things that we do not want to hear...i know that this is not one...but to let you know sweetheart negativity works in our favor at times because when someone is nagative torwards you. it should only motivate you to do better...and become stronger even wiser...prove that person wrong....you need to prove to him that you do not need him....it is so unattractive for a woman to beg a man to stay...you must let go there was a time you didnt know him, and i bet you were making it just fine without him...why hang on to someone who has already moved on....and why should you care if he calls he treated you badly and it will only continue until you decide to let go...honey move on there someone out there who will appreciate you.
2006-10-01 22:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, you are feeling alone and unwanted, rejected! There is a problem, you may be co-dependent. We tend to still care for the abuser for different reasons. It sounds like you are obsessing over him, believe me when you continue to call him etc, it gives him the power to control you in spite of not being with him! You may need professional help because if you live your life choosing guys who abuse you physically, emotionally, mentally, you need to find out WHY YOU are in such a PATTERN. Do you recognize by BEGGING HIM, CALLING HIM, YOU SHOW NO RESPECT for YOURSELF and you can be sure he will not RESPECT YOU!!! You are going through a loss even if you were abused, sometimes taking the abuse seems better then being alone! It is like stinking thinking, look at your life with him and remember the abuse. You will eat, you will sleep, you will get better!!! Give yourself time, find something you are interested in and start doing it, DO NOT GET IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR SEVERAL MONTHS! Your mixed up, go to your local Mental Health Facility or if you have enough money get therapy. Do not harm yourself, it is not worth it. If you refuse to accept the fact he is not good for you nor does he want you back, your denial will not help. How old are you? Let go of him, I am sure you are suffering, missing him, but you do have yourself to take care of and learn from this relationship the lesson! WE ( YOU) do not have to put yourdelf in a abusive situation again. Try to learn and use this to benefit you! I may not have answered your question the way you want, but I too had relationships that were very abusive, I felt alone, lost, pain, depressed, tearful, and I did what you are now doing! Think of the positive things you can do step by step to attain help and to have realistic goals for your life.DO NOT CONTINUE TO OBSESS, I think you have OCD obsessive compulsive disorder, although you would need to be checked by a professional about that. I am not in that field, it is a suggestion for you to check out. Best of Luck
2006-10-02 05:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to feel this way about him for a long time. You can't get over someone that you are in love with over night. Don't call him anymore. He hurt you bad. The reason your stomach burns and you can't eat or sleep is because the thought of you and him not being together hurts you so bad. And you don't want to see him with another girl. You need to avoid him as much as possible. Just live each day and keep busy and hang with friends. Don't let him cheat you from dating other guys. Be strong and have the will power not to talk to him anymore. Have pride and self respect. You deserve to be happy!
Please don't call him!
2006-10-02 04:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to stop calling whatever the problem is that u aren't w/him, if their was any chance for him to eventually come back then he knows he can b/c u keep it going. So, when u stop calling he will worry that is is really over and he will come back if that is what he intends on doing. If he does not call then it wasn't meant to be. Nothing u can do about it. LOVE can hurt. However, try making new friends or date someone else that can be there for u. It will help even though u may not want to do that.
2006-10-02 04:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want him back when he treated you so badly? When you beg, it gives him a chance to treat you more badly. Get yourself together and make a better life for yourself than you ever had with him. Go out with some friends, get involved with things that make you happy. If he's a crappy boyfriend, you'll never be happy with him.
The sooner you let him go, the sooner you'll begin to heal. The pain will subside. If you keep phoning him and begging, the longer it's going to hurt. Just stop it now.
2006-10-02 04:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, we can't control what we feel. You may feel this way for a while. Sometimes, as people especially as females we want the one who is actually the worse for us for whatever reason. The one who treats us the worse tends to attract us the most. You just have to give yourself some time, some "you" time where you become your only focus. Work on yourself and not on wondering what kind of mind game or reverse psychology you could use to get him to call you. You actually don't need him to call you back if he treated you badly. I know it's hard, but try to move on and take this as your blessing to move on to better. Sometimes we have to learn to stop thinking so hard about those who probrably aren't even the least bit worried about us.
2006-10-02 04:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by msmith4950@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It looks like you are getting a lot of good advice. It is very hard sometimes when a relationship ends but just tell yourself that "this too shall pass", and before you know it you will be busy with your new routine and friends and you will barely remember the pain that you feel now.
2006-10-02 04:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by Michael B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go jogging, run faster each time u think of him, after all the exhaustion, all u would think of is only eat n rest. then the next day, wake up, dont do the usual thing, break ur normal routine. dont brush teeth straight way, eat things then only brush. when u wanna pick up the same dress and wear, stop it. break the cycle. you are the NEW YOU. wear something different. do the alternative and find a new love !!!
2006-10-02 04:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abuse is addictive. Even for the abused. Ever heard the term the cycle of abuse? Even in it's most mild of manners it will cycle. Women also have the tendency to hope they will be the one to tame the bad boys too. Don't kid yourself.
2006-10-02 05:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by sonkysst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go sweety
if you have to beg him then your are already the better
person. beat thing you can do is fake being happy,if
you cant pick yourself up yet.
even then he may not care.
get a hobby.
2006-10-02 04:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by stcgoodman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋