i have a large number of groups and never have any shortage. but my best friends at times really hurt me. they become low spirited whenever i want to do something. i am always ready to do anything for them and also have done a lot in the past but i never remember getting the same reaction from them. i have been lucky when it comes to making friends but when i make best friends i end up chossing the people who never really you know are there for me. but when i cool down i love them again. what is wrong with my best friends. am i with the worng people or am i just over analyising thing?please help me
thank you
2006-10-01 21:00:34 · 15 answers · asked by s4e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A frnd catches ur 1st tear
stops the 2nd
& changes the 3rd into smile!
There r many frnds around us. But he is the real frnd who is there in ur need, sorrow & each & every bad time
2006-10-01 21:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes as u get older they cannot be there all the time. They might have work or school or even taking care of kids. But they probably will be there if it was something very important. If they are not there for you when it is for something important than you might just have to talk to them. If things don't change than loose ur friends. If u r the type that is there through thick n thin & they are not like that back at u than they are not that close even though u know them longer. It is easy to make friends but it is hard to find really GOOD friends. So pick your good friends wisely from ur regular friends. Spend more time wit ur close friends & not so much time on other friends. maybe u are too busy hanging out with different crowds that they didnt' think remember them. Whatever it is good luck.
2006-10-02 04:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by smartie2828 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are the giver and they are the takers. I went through it with my friends and it ended up were not firneds anymore. As long as you let them do it to you they are going to keep doing it. Lay low for awhile and see what happens. See how their reactions are when you aren't as involved in things as you were before. IF they are your true friends then they will see what is going on and try to fix it and not let it happen again. IF their not your friends then they won't care and then you'll know. Be careful as to who you choose to be your bestfriend. People are very cruel and are usually out for themselves. Or you can try and talk to them to see how they feel but be sure to let them know how you feel too. Your doing nothing wrong from what i've read. You sound like a really nice and caring person. I hope thaat this helps and good luck to you.
2006-10-02 11:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Heather A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are right. see how you said you'd do anything for them. Thats a good friend. Also a friend whos there when your down or out. not just when your on cloud 9. also a friend should not be a taker or user. Its very hard to find such people many people can have tons of friends but they could flee at a moments notice or if something bad happened to you.
You need to find a giver in life. two kinds of people giver and takers.
Good luck not easy to find.
2006-10-02 04:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am somewhat in a similar situation as you. I have always been quiet and have very little friends. However, in the past few months, i began to make quite a number of friends due to the situation i'm in. I've made a best friend. How do I know he's my best friend? Cos he stands up for me when everybody else is making jokes about me and he's very sincere about everything he did with me. I've got a few other good friends too. But when my good friends come together, they would make jokes about me and laugh at me, thus making me very sad n angry.. But, like you, i'm ok with them when i'm cooled down. Hmmm, well, we juz have to evaluate things and see who is really true to us. Like what my best friend told, If u treat ppl sincerely, they'll treat you sincerely too..
Hope u can find ur true friend too =D
2006-10-02 04:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by band_craze4f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BobB said it perfectly, your friends come to you for nothing but the pleasure of your company, anybody who forgets you when they stop needing your help is not a friend, but unfortunately, that the way most are. Genuine friends are hard to find, in 28 years I've found 4, and count myself lucky for having found that many. No, you are not over analysing things, and if they are not there for you, they don't deserve the 'friend' title, let alone the 'best' part.
2006-10-02 04:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Raja 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not how many friends you have is important, but what kind of friends you have is important. It is good to have one good friend than having 10 bad friends, and you cannot call each and everyone as your best friend. Best friends are those, who cares you, who thinks about without any motive or without expecting anything in return, and who thinks of ur well being.
From now on words, try to observe people and their attitudes and then sort the good ones out from bad.
All the best!!!
2006-10-02 17:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by vinnu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, a best friend is hard to find. You may have a bunch of friends but none of them will go far for you. As far as my experience and knowledge is concerned, be your own bestfriend first and to others (dont expect anything in return). As what you had mentioned, you are already being a priceless friend. Just continue doing that and you will find your own best buddy. Maybe you havent discovered her yet...but he/she will come im sure.
2006-10-02 04:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by sundaesoda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something short that I heard recently.
A friend is someone who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.
How many people do you know who are like that?
2006-10-02 04:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shweta we get friends very easily but getting best friend is really difficult. you have to be really very lucky to get the best friend. if you get it the person will go away either places or from heart. but still people make friends. example: when i was in class 6 i had my best friend senthil but very next year i missed him. i left the school and joined other school. still i am searching for him.
2006-10-02 08:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by thejesh k j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋