I am a lesbian, wondering, is there a good way to go about "coming out"? How do I even bring up the conversation? I would like my girlfriend to meet my parents, and I wouldn't mind her support for when I tell them. (I currently live at home right now) Should I bring her?
2006-10-01 20:45:22 · 10 answers · asked by Jen M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Jen -
Hi. I'm going to try answering your question. It would help if I knew how old you are, but I don't, so I'm going to guess you're 20-something. Were you a tomboy as a girl? If so, your parents may be expecting this on some level. I was a bit of a sissy boy, and my coming out was not too much of a shock to my parents, though it wasn't easy either. I suggest you choose one of them to talk to first. And, I'm going to go out on a limb here... why not speak to the parent with whom you have generally been LESS close to? I'll tell you why. If one of your parents feels a little less closeness with you, there will be an added dimension to your "confession." Besides telling that parent that you are gay, you will also be making a statement of trust and confidence. Like, for example, say you are very close to your mom. Go to your dad, and say, "Dad, I want to talk to you. I haven't talked to Mom about this yet. I wanted to discuss it with you first." ... (then go on and say what you need to say.) Besides letting the less-close parent feel that you want to build a bridge, it will serve other purposes also. The parent who has less emotional investment with you may be able to deal with the situation better. And, if rejection is a possibility, by getting the more greater risk out of the way first, you'll be addressing your challenge head-on, and after the first communication it can only get better. Good luck honey.
2006-10-01 21:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by uncle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is odd, I dunno but you just spill it out. Your parents must accept the truth that can't be change.
Oh, and just be a good and well thought out person even you are a les or not.
About the bringing part, if you wanna tell them, bring her and tell them about her (bring her with you after some alone talks, talk with your mother first, mothers always take things easier). Maybe your parents might still feel bad about you that you didn't like something they wanted you to be but at least they can understand somewhat...cuz parents love to a child never change...They'll get over everything...
Be brave and be cool...
2006-10-01 20:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Oh Dee! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell them alone. If they love you and support you, they will be supportive and understanding regardless of how and when you tell them (although sooner is rather than later.). Being a lesbian should not change their adoration and respect of you. x
PS - I respect you for doing the right thing and deciding to come out to your parents. I know its a tough time, but it's all for the better in the lon run.
2006-10-01 20:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring Your gf home and plant a big one on her the parents will get the idea. Most parents know but do not want think there kid is like That. They will still love You where they like it or not. It is better girl an girl than boy to boy.
2006-10-01 21:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by canivieu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take your time and tell them. My wifes cousin is gay and he was hesitant on telling has parent but finally did and they accepted it after they figured out it was true and their shock went away. Some parents suspect it anyways just by the actions and ways about their kids so its not a shock to all parents when they find out.
2006-10-01 20:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although i wouldn't want one of my children to be gay (they are under 5 years old now) it wouldn't matter. i love them and it doesn't make a difference. i know that not every body feels the way i feel but really if you love your child this is not a problem. what do your parents think about gay persons? if they can accept it it should be easier for you to tell them.
2006-10-01 20:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by **** if i know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Laying a bombshell like that on them should be between you and your parents. Tell them you love them and that they did nothing wrong. Then been as open and honest about it as possible. Don't cram your girlfriend down their throats until they are ready, and have gotten over the initial shock.
2006-10-01 20:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just come out and say it guess what mum and dad i'm a lesbian... how else would you tell someone you're gay
2006-10-01 20:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about this. Hey mom, Hey dad, I'm gay !
2006-10-01 20:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like,just tell her.
2006-10-01 20:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋