Ok i have 2 friends who were married and split a few weeks ago. He has now moved in with his new gf and kids who was also a family friend. His ex is devastated and his kids more so as they saw the other woman as someone they could trust. I really thought alot of my male friend but now found i have lost all respect as i feel he should have waited before moving in to lessen the heartache to his kids. He has not seen them now for 6 weeks as his kids have lost all faith in him. There mum is a loving person who has shown them love and cuddles and told them even tho he lives esle where he does love them. He has given it all up for this woman his home, kids, dumped his dog at a mates even the support group he runs for survivors of child abuse. Will reality ever hit him? As at the moment he is blaming it all on his ex who is a trully lovely person who i have the upmost respect for. He lost lots of friends due to this but i honestly feel i dont know him anymore as i never believed he would doit
2006-10-01 20:42:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am in a similar situation but now further on - my friend's husband left and moved straight in with gf and has now not seen kids for 6 months! Both kids say they now 'hate' him. My friend is picking herself up. Similarly I thought I knew him and that he was a friend but I look at my true friends and not one of them would treat people like this (especially not their children). Therefore I know I never really knew him and have no guilt when I made the decision I never wanted to see him again (or hear any explanation - there isn't one - yes, move out and THEN move on - new gf, etc but not immediately!! -too hurtful for all). I believe this will all come back to bite him in the bum and he will be filled with regret one day - but will also be very lonely!!
2006-10-02 02:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by sue w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have rushed in to things with his eyes closed and many of us behave like this when we are in love or think we are in love,it sounds as if it early days yet and when the dust has had time to settle he may come to his senses and realise what a foolish mistake he has made but by then it may be to late to rectify things.You as a mate should be there for him because there will no doubt come a time when he needs someones shoulder to cry on when this mess finally hits home,we all make mistakes this is why we are human it really is immaterial how old we are when we do, but knowing we have friends to turn to in need is really a life support and i urge you not to turn your back on him,try and make him see what hes done,lust is a powerful emotion but as we all know it doesn't last.
2006-10-01 20:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what your dilemma is?
It sounds like you have taken all the emotional turmoil involving your friend and pulled it into your life why?
If he really was your friend then you would listen and not judge. If you fancy the wife then stop being dihonest and mirroring her emotions ( or how you feel she should feel) to engratiate yourself with her. You will not be attractive in the long term if you go down the route of him cad me good guy you should cry on my shoulder.
If you concnetrate on what they want going forward and not what they had then you would be a good friend and everyone would be happier.
2006-10-01 22:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by commentator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that you should do anything. I to went on and left my husband and children for an other man... Some times you do things that you have to do no matter what the consequences are. You never know what kind of relations ships people have and we are not the ones to judge. If you like both of them and still wants to be their friend just be there for booth of them.
Anne
2006-10-01 20:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by annemad2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we never know someone 100%. Love can be the reason for all these changes. He has made his decisions, whether he's right or wrong , let's him decide. It's very sad for his wife and kids. It's always traumatic when a family breaks. But you can't do anything abt that. We are not responsible for anyone actions but they remains our friends.
2006-10-01 20:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 08:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ! Well he seems a bit selfish for sure. That's just an awful thing and I really feel for his kids and wife. At some point in time, reality WILL hit him. It may not be right away however.
2006-10-01 20:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because YOU feel that way about his ex doesn't mean he's wrong. Perhaps he didn't love her anymore, or she truely was different to him than she is to you.
Some things aren't meant to be and maybe this was one of them.
Ignoring his own children though is wrong. Plain and simple.
Men who ditch their families and children never to speak to the again should be shot on site.
2006-10-01 20:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by iswd1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with you is that you only have one sided story, you sound very much biased. Listen to both versions of the story and help you friends in an unbiased manner.
2006-10-01 21:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by akady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is a male they are weak for the most part.. not all but most... however the family friend that he took off for is a home wrecking whore and what goes around comes around the good wife will be rewarded and the unfaithful husband and whore he is with will end up with much much less
2006-10-01 20:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋