ok my friend says he is gay and he has always acted that way and i love him to death he is my bestfriend.............. but lately he has been acting strange like he is hidding something from me and he has been well i hate to say it but he has been hitting on me, he holds my hands for no reason and he cuddles with me and he calls me everynight for no reason except to tell me goodnight. he also wont let me talk to other guys because he get jealous. and even his family (who have supported him this whole way) has come up to me and said that they dont think he is gay.
is he just lonely and holding on to me because he feels the most comfortable around me
or
do u think he could really be straight (or bi) and really like me?
im so confused
2006-10-01 20:30:50 · 15 answers · asked by funny in a tragic way 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i am a girl and no i have never seen him date a guy............and y should i get my head checked?
2006-10-01 20:44:38 · update #1
ok i will not kill my bestfriend! and i have tried talking to him but he avoids my questions and i dont want to push
and for the record i will love him no matter who he sleeps with i do accept him he is my bestfriend
2006-10-01 20:46:57 · update #2
Either is possible.
Because you are a good friend, you are a 'safe' person for him.
He may think being with a girl would be easier/more accepted etc, and so he may be trying to woo you in some way.
He may be Bi and really like you.
Most people who claim to be gay are NOT straight. (Why invite that kind of harrassment into you life if you aren't?)
You two *might* find that you get to a place where you are happy to still be his best friend, but clear with him that you don't think you're the one for him - that eventually he will find his Mr. Right. Until then, you may end up doing what a lot of gays and their close female friends in high school have done - let the world think he's into you (as long as you're comfortable not dating other guys), and you being his 'beard' for certain events (his 'straight date', to get people off his back.) High school can be EXCRUCIATINGLY painful for gay kids, and this is a tactic that got a lot of people through it unharmed.
Really though, no matter what, be gentle but firm, and honest with him. Don't let him play games with you. Tell him you want to support him but his behaviour is confusing you. See what he has to say about it. Good luck!
2006-10-01 22:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by ladyfraser04 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't really give you some good advice. In my opinion, he just likes you very much. I am not sure he fells in love with you, but he might need some support from you. (that could be the reason calling you every night)
2006-10-01 23:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by frenzie-ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her aside and tell her that she is captivating. yet that shes on the issue of you and also you imagine that she prefer to communicate with someone if that doesnt replace some thing then i'd probable tell her father and mom they could help. only tell them hi there she has a mission that im worried about yet i dont opt for her to carry close i instructed yall and then tell them
2016-11-25 22:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by reader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen him go out with another guy? If so he could be bi. Or maybe he is trying to fill an "emptiness" that he feels inside. The best option is to sit and talk with him about it and see where you go from there.
2006-10-01 20:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by merlinmx5 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is also confused about his sexuality, he may have feelings for you because of your close friendship but he may also be attracted to men...and he he may feel that if he came out and said that he is gay then he would lose you.......I think that you should tell him how you feel...
2006-10-01 20:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he is a true friend, he will respect your friendship and not pursue you. however, if his desires are overpowering, u need to let him know about your friendship for him and nothing else. good luck. also, with the family, denial and rejection is typical. they need to understand and accept it. it is natural and, no matter their feelings, they just need to get over it.
2006-10-01 20:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by johnny_on_the_spot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You call him my friend! Then you should help him out. Check it out with you family doctor to make a appointment for your friend to meet your doctor. Your doctor will be able to fix his hormone unbalance and make arrangement for him to see a specialist or fix him a counselling session.
2006-10-01 20:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by FIXIT 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like hes gay, just be clear that you accept him for who he is as long as he accepts you for who you are and make it known what you want from your friendship.
2006-10-01 20:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by michael_phillips73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you are not gay.If that is the case.
Then tell him you will stand by him no matter what.
Then stand by him no matter what.
Peace
2006-10-01 20:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by azfab4fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows just let him hold you because if he is gay he might not accept it
2006-10-01 20:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋