I have a girl friend that i asked to marry me, we made the date 4th of july because thats when we got together. I just turned 23 and she is about to be 19, Should I get married. I hear alot of people say we are to young. I just say, Im not to young to go to hell for having sex. but do you think that it would work out?
2006-10-01 19:39:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriages have lasted a lifetime with couples much younger than you. However, societal influences play a role. Society does not prize commitment much anymore. People of the postmodern era prize individuality over the welfare of their most significant others.
No doubt, you are burning with passion. But both of you must be sure of each other's commitment and of your own commitment. Tough times are ahead. That's nearly inevitable at any age. Be as sure as you can be (you can't be completely sure) that both of you are made of the stuff to see your relationship through a lifetime through thick and thin for the welfare of both of you and any kids you may have.
If both of you are Christians, and both of you seek to follow Him, then you can only grow closer as time passes. If one is Christian and the other is not, then you have an especially hard road ahead as you will be serving different masters and will have serious conflicts.
This is a serious decision. Getting married is like losing your virginity. You can't go back. And divorce is worse yet. But if you both love the Lord, then over time, you will love each other with true agape love just as Paul describes it in 1 Corinthians 13.
Romantic love won't last. Agape love will. It's funny how God plans things. We don't really understand agape until we've been married (fully committed) for a while and been through some struggles together.
May God give you discernment, a wife that loves the LORD, and many opportunities to serve His kingdom. May He bless you, richly.
2006-10-01 19:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by Nick â? 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I was married when i was 18. And i am 22 and still married to the same guy. I will admit the 1st year was hard but then again i heard it always is regardless on what the age. People say that you are to young bc statistics show people who get married at a young age get divorced later because they get that "maybe i should have dated more," thing in their head and want to explore. If you truly love her and it is something you want to do then do it. Some might think being 19 isn't mature enough but hey i know some pretty IMMATURE adults too.
*There can only be one* is right. It can be hard. I don't know how many time's the words divorce came out of mine or my husbands mouth. But with strength and time all obstacles can be overcome. (well for the most part.)
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-01 19:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
marriage is 50/50 these days. whether your 50 or 20.. more important here is how do you feel about her how does she make you feel. Do you have hesitations are there things your not sure of. These things need to be resolved before you say ok.
You are a bit young infact your girlfriend of 19 is too young right now why not date a little longer and see how you both feel in another year or 2. no rush right. but its good your being sensible and thinking of these things.
You'll know it when its right you can't force it ..
2006-10-01 19:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you two know how strong your relationship is, if you both feel deep in your hearts that you should marry, then you should. I feel if you are engaged, you should be ready to marry that person at that moment if given the chance. People should not look at an engagement as the next step in a relationship. You are making a committment to marry and be with that person for a lifetime. If you are having doubts, you should really think about the decision you are making. Divorces are expensive!
2006-10-01 19:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married when I was 18 and he was 24. We have been married for 8 years. I will not lie to you, we have had our rough patches. We even split up for 6 months. We are back together, because we found Jesus. We are now involved in church, have a beautiful family, he has a good job, and I am going to college. We are happier and more in love than we were 8 years ago.
It can work, don't letr anyone tell you it can't. Just be sure that's what you want. And please, be financially ready before you have kids!! Good luck, and may God bless your decisions, whatever they may be.
2006-10-01 19:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem a little young, but it really depends on where you are in life. If you're in school it's a little different than being out in the work force. Also, I don't think sex is ever a good idea to rush into marriage for.
2006-10-01 19:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Adrianna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage is your own personal decision if you are fully prepared to get married at your present age then go ahead. Marriage can be simply out of love for each other but after marriage there are alot of reponsiblities are you prepared for them ? after marriage you will be a family an institution? IF you are getting married just for sex that is not fair actually?
2006-10-01 19:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by may_minu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 year olds from my experience aren't mature enough for marriage.. but if you must do it, make sure to have a pre-nuptual agreement, that way if you have to get divorced it won't be that nasty of a situation. Pre-nups cure so much stress.. I wish my parents would have had one.. As for going to hell for having premarital sex.. that is just a hoax. God had sex with Mary and he wasn't married to her.. I don't see him in hell do you? and nobody calls Jesus the b word... (you know illegitimate son)
2006-10-01 19:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by The ugly duckling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a very serious commitment and if the both of you agree to make it work, because it is work, then I say go for it and Good Luck
2006-10-01 19:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you are having doubts because of what everybody is saying to you or is it really your conscious trying to tell you something. If you feel right about it in your own mind f**k what everybody else is saying. You can make it work if you really want to. You are a grown man and you control your own destiny.
2006-10-01 19:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋