i am separated for 2 years now. recently i was contacted with my bestfriend who was also my old lover... at that time i ddint gave him chance because we ahve been friends since grade 5 and i find it awkward,
now he is aware of the situation and he keeps on saying taht he still loves me and is serious about it.. he is married adn he says the only reason he courted his wife is when the time we lost communication.
i am now feeling someting special though i know its wrong. i started receiving text messages from his wife.. and i knwo they are ahve misunderstanding.. BUT we only exchange text messages and have not done anything..
i dont feel guilty becasue i am fully aware that it is not possible. but am missing now my bestfriend. i have decided not to text him nor to avoid further misunderstanding with his wife. what will i do?
2006-10-01 18:50:48 · 10 answers · asked by crystalink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
pls leave him alone dont spoil his married life.
2006-10-01 19:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by chetanhthakkar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct. Stay away from your your former best friend. You don't want to be the cause of their marriage's break-up, would you? You know how lonely it is to be separated. Would you want another family to go through what you are going through?
There are no perfect marriages. There will always be good times as well as bad times in a marriage. Don't take advantage of your best friend's vulnerability at the moment. Don't fall for his sweet talk either. Don't give in to you loneliness. You don't want to add misery to your loneliness.
There is much more you can do with your life without complicating it any further by getting involved with a married guy. Move on with your life. Pray for yourself. It helps a lot. Pray a lot, too. Hopefully, you will be able to get over and out of this situation in your life ASAP.
2006-10-02 02:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bong-Jeweller of San Francisco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is married and telling you he has feeling for you. You should definately stay away from him and his wife. Don't be the cause of breaking up a home even if it isn't that happy. If he really loved you he'd settle things w/ his wife and move on to you. But be aware of his pattern..if he can be w/ a woman he made a vow to love thru life then what might he do to you when he realizes he is in love w/ the next woman.
2006-10-02 01:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by iwannano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wants to be with you he will leave his wife ,don't go near him or call him or text nothing ,let him sort out his own mess ,then if he leaves you will not be to blame and you will have a better chance ,mine you men that cheat on one wife end up cheating again.
2006-10-02 02:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so respect you for that ,he is married and satan is tempting him ,and he loved her or he would not have married her so you are a attraction again to him .I had a young girl intrude on my marriage and It hurt like a death ,I would never do that to a marriage .you can go on without him at all ,and if he ever becomes single let him look you up .but dont disrespect yourself with a married man this stands strong on your loyality to one you would be with .I am so proud of you I wish all women where like that .my hubby broke this young girls heart because it was just a thing a fling .so alot of us got hurt .and he still wanted me ,Hang in there just wait if its meant for you and him wait until he is single completely .best wishes
2006-10-02 02:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have answered your own question with your last sentence. Common sense should've told u to stay away from him as he's married and furthermore, his wife does not approve of it. Plain and simple.
2006-10-02 01:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,
It is better not to destroy someones married life so keep away from this guy .
Yours
Ravi
2006-10-02 01:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by ravinder b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wisdom person will just stay away from him.
2006-10-02 02:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep doin wut ur doin,dont ruin the wifes life by her findinout her hubby cheated on her,ur a good person,best of luck,ull get through this slump,and find sum1 evenBETTER
2006-10-02 02:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by polly! :) Hahahahaha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing the right thing...keep it up...God Bless and goodluck!!!
2006-10-02 01:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋