2006-10-01 18:42:50 · 28 answers · asked by Ruby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on what you mean by happy marriage, because all couples fight and scream and argue, nobody is perfect, it will not be normal if they do not fight at all, but at the end of the day, they should know how to communicate and settle their problems in the right way, and always have respect for each other and each others opinion
I know lots of happy couples who live that way,
2006-10-01 18:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by sandeep k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know of a few. But you must define happy. If you mean someone who never had an argument and always feels the way they did when they fell in love. I am not sure many of these people exist.
The happiest married couples I have met are ones that have figured out how to work with their differences. They have made a choice to love. They realize that love is more about what you do than what you feel. When they have a disagreement they work it out. They submit to each other. They work together.
Those who wait for everything to come to them are usually disappointed. In the western world 2 out of 3 marriages end up in divorce. And second marriages have worse stats. Most of my friends who have taken the divorce option are no happier separated or remarried. Which leads me to believe that love is more than a feeling of happiness. It is a commitment to be together and love each other.
I have been married 21 years. We have made a commitment to work on every issue. To me that is true love.
There is an ancient book that describes love. It says
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
Now that is a definition of love you don't hear every day but I think it is a lot more accurate that the common ideas we have in our heads
2006-10-01 18:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by revlex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of my aunts and uncles are happily married, I think close to 30 years. My grandparents are still married but not happily.
2006-10-01 18:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents were married 63 years before Grandpa passed away. My parents have been married 40 years. I have two sets of aunts and uncles who have been married 45 years and 25 years... another set who have been married 20 years. I have cousins who have been married for over 20 years. My great aunt and uncle had just celebrated their 65th anniversary before my uncle passed.
On my husband's side, his parents have been married 41 years. His grandparents, one set 55 years before his one grandmother passed away, the other set are still going strong at 63 years married.
And no, religion does not play into why these couples are still together. They've had their ups and downs but they've all worked through them together.
2006-10-01 19:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents. I think they are going on 36 years. I definately consider them happily married....i guess they still bicker...but i dont think that would ever go away in a relationship. They are definately a couple to look up to and want to emulate (even at the same time be able to learn from their small mistakes as well!)
2006-10-01 18:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No marriage is perfect and happy all the time. However, I have been married 35 years now to one wife. We quarrel a lot but kiss and make up just as many times.
My wife's paternal grandparents were married for more than 60 years before they died. They quarreled a lot of times and they made up as many times.
2006-10-01 20:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Bong-Jeweller of San Francisco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have, my parents were married for 62 years, almost 63 when my Dad passed away.
My grandparents were married for 60 years. I have several aunts, uncles, brothers and sisters that have been married over 40 years. And they are and we very happy.
Paul Newman and his wife have been together for as long as I can remember and I am 57 years old.
Bob Hope and his wife were married for years, as was George and Gracie Burns.
2006-10-01 18:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by nevada nomad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've known many happily married couples that have been married decades.
2006-10-01 18:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by valuedby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me. I have been happily married for 51 years! And, looking forward to many more.
2006-10-01 18:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by FL Girl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I live in India and here commitment is very important. So there are lot of couples married for many number of years (until death parts them). If they are happy or not, well, nothing is perfect.
2006-10-01 21:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by mat_hen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋