I broke up with my ex boyfiends recently because i couldn't handle the long distance relationship anymore and also i found out he was cheating on me since the beginning. But he keeps calling me all the time calling me b*tches, wh#res, and sluts; leaving nasty messages on my voicemail. Can you believe he blames everything on me, and he doesn't see cheating as a problem. How can i get him to see that he did was wrong and that i dont want to be with him. I just want him to leaveeee me alone so i can be happy with my new upgraded boyfriend.
2006-10-01 18:06:31 · 16 answers · asked by clueless_amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you don't need to put up with his B.S. Change your phone #. You don't need to take his phone calls. Since he is long distance I don't think he will go out of his way to come and harrasses you. and if he does call the police and put a restraining order on him. You don't need to get him to realized what he did is wrong. You just be a better person and ignore him. It's his mouth he can say whatever he wants. If you let him get to you than he'll more alot happier b/c that is his intention. There are no reason for you to be upset over this loser. Obviously he is the immature who can't handle a break up. One day when he decided to grow up he will realized that he lost a great gf like yourself.
Just know that it takes a real man to handle a break up. Like you said you moved on already. Just get him out of your life and concentrate on your new bf. You should give yourself a pat in a back for leaving him. you did the right thing
2006-10-01 18:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a major problem on your hands, this is a very disturbed individual and it will get worse before it will get better all i can suggest is to change your number or get a restraining order and show him u mean business before someone gets hurt. People like him can dish it out but can't take it, and now he has nothing but time and energy trying to make your life miserable because he messed up a good thing....usuall u don't know u had something good until it's gone...keep your head up and watch your back
2006-10-01 18:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is go to the police station and play the voice mail messages for them and get a restraining order. You do not have to make him see he is wrong. You can also change your phone number. Best wishes with the new one.
2006-10-01 18:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your number. He's trying to flip the script on you. He's trying to make you feel as if you did something wrong to him. When in your case, you didn't. If you want him to leave you alone, then don't pick up when he calls. Don't give him any of your time. I know it might feel good that he's sweating you, but you shouldn't associate with him on any terms right now. Until he is over you. Best way to go, is change your number.
2006-10-01 18:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that leaving nasty voicemails is actually a threat and you will get a restraining order if he does not cease. Give him one warning then contact the local authorities, who will, in turn, contact him and tell him to stop. I know this works, because I had to do it once.
2006-10-01 18:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by simone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first, you will desire to be terrified of this guy probably hurting you. people who become obsessed like this are actually not rational, and that they generally strengthen the approach that no-one could have you ever in the event that they'd't have you ever. Secondly, why might you ultimately desire to be friends with a guy with whom you brazenly reported you had a poisonous dating? third, he's clearly showing that he has definitely NO limitations in that he contacts you at artwork and stalking you via looking your motor vehicle. finally, don't sense sorry for him. he's refusing to stand the actuality and pass on. that's what makes him doubtlessly risky. Please, look after your self and don't underestimate what's occurring with him.
2016-10-18 08:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your voice mail,
I have to keep deleting all the good ones,,
But have your new boyfriend leave the message,
he can say your detained with him,
Ok I can send this one.
Use your imagination,,
2006-10-01 18:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by Faith Walker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set the ringer for his number when he calls to none so you wont hear it ring and wont be tempted to answer it. Change his name on your phone to "Don't Answer". When you are listening to your voice mail and realize that you have a message from him- erase it without listening to it...stop paying any attention to him whatsoever...you have to move on before he will. The more you let him know he is getting to you- the more he is going to get to you.
2006-10-01 18:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your number after you call him saying that u are changing ur number and that he needs to move on ....and its over for real. some people takes longer to get over a lost love and u have to be more patient ....however..... if he starts to interfere with ur daily living, u might want to report him to the police, so u will have a record of his harrassment.....
2006-10-01 18:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
record the voicemails, and then threaten him with a lawsuit or a restraining order. if he doesn't stop, take the recorded messages to the police.
2006-10-01 18:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by stilettopanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋