I've been with my boyfriend over two and a half years.I feel like lately hes not been listening to me. And things have just been weird. Anyways, I'm getting my tonsil out and I'm 21.I've never had surgery before and I'm scared. I asked him to ask off for it 2 months ago. About a month ago I told him how i needed to switch a doctors appt and push it back. Tonite i was saying yeah i'm scared for next weds and he said why.I said well duh its my surgery. I have been talking about it a lot. And I know i have even said the date and the word weds a lot.He was like i thought it was friday? You said you had to change your appointment.Yes I did but i didn't say i changed my "surgery" So he then he started getting mad at me . Like it was my fault. He said he couldn't make it. And i really wanted him to be there. Then i called him and told him it would mean a lot if he was there. And he said I guess i might be able to manage to come. Does this mean he doesn't listen to me? Should I be mad
2006-10-01 17:26:47 · 16 answers · asked by jackiejunebug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If I asked for help than I would ask it just once and maybe twice, but this should be the last cry for help. If he's keep on ignoring you, than you have to help your self. I forbid my self to beg to somebody who wouldn't give me a piece of himself. Believe in your self, that you have your own strength and dignity that you can face the surgery with your head up high. Show him that you don't need to humiliate yourself over him any more. You still have your family who are willing to take care of you more than him, don't you?
2006-10-01 19:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by yanti b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be mad. It sounds to me like you two just had some communication issues. You said you were changing your appointment and he thought you were changing your surgery date. In relationships these things happen. To truly love someone means to accept the good with the bad. We are all human. Which means we all make mistakes and get things mixed up sometimes. I know you are scared but try to be understanding. After all it does sound like he is going to try to make a way to be there. I am sure your surgery will go fine and I will be praying for you. Peace and God bless.
2006-10-02 00:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has probably never really listened to you. And yes you should be mad. Listening is a skill that is learned over time and apparently he does not have that skill. If he did not make your surgery I would give the relationship some serious thought about where it is headed.
2006-10-02 00:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by patrick G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means a heck of a lot more than he doesn't listen to you... it means that he really doesn't give a damn about you. Sorry honey, you bagged a loser here... you should seriously think about losing him along with your tonsils... that way you can kill two birds with the same pint of ice cream!
2006-10-02 00:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman. You should not need someone to hold your hand when you go to the hospital or doctor's office. And if you do, that's what your parents are for. He's most likely frustrated that you are being so needy.
2006-10-02 00:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by medellia1984 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey you're getting your tongsils removed, not having open heart surgery. I know it may be a big deal to you and you want to be fussed over but please don't expect your bf to be all over you about it. When it comes to men, unless it's something that's happening to them, they don't get all excited over things like that. Stop being such a clinger....men hate that. Just stop nagging him about it and believe me that's what he sees it as , nagging .(talk to your friends instead) and go through it. Maybe ask a gf or family to be there with you. Men don't like needy women.
2006-10-02 00:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sorry, but he's not listening because you talk too much. You should say what you need in less words than this. You want to keep their attention, not put them to sleep.
2006-10-02 00:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by just_call_me_ro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont sweat it he just got confused i would too. If someone said to me that they were changing the oppointment i would probaly take that the same way. Give him some leaway! He just got confused its not like he purposly tried to miss it!
2006-10-02 00:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy seems like he is either in his own little world or is completly self absorbed. You should not have had to ask him to be there for you -- he should have offered.
I would be twisted if I was you.
2006-10-02 00:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by lucydesi1940 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh?
Were you saying something?
Be assertive! Surgery is serious and if he can't even pretend to be concerned, dump his sorry butt!!
Don't you think you deserve better than that?
2006-10-02 00:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋